GalacticTurtle

In the final ten days of this otherwise very chill tour, the heavens have decided to throw me all the classics:
- Bus breakdown
- Hotel room damage
- Forgotten luggage
- Set damage
- Terrible runner
- Botched catering
- Venue flood
- Venue fire
- Cast fight
- Crew fight
So on these final five days I am begging the heavens, please just let me live. 🎄

2023-12-01 15:48:41

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Diving and rolling behind benches, much to their unamusement.

2023-12-01 15:46:54

Sandra Day O'Connor has died. Tbh, don't know much about her, but she did come to my school to speak to us way back in the day. Classy looking lady. Lots of security accompanied her. I thought it was very cool and, as a preteen, wanted to figure out ways to outsmart them.

2023-11-27 04:59:25

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From what I’ve seen it’s usually what I kind of mentioned above. The whole “men are trash but not the one I happened to find who happens to want to be with me. How convenient.” Mental gymnastics Olympic squad.
Or more broadly, “men of my race/country/religion are significantly different from men of some other race/country/religion so women over there should take certain measures that simply don’t apply to me or my men.”

2023-11-27 03:15:02

It always confuses me that the 4B stuff out of Korea is considered extreme. You’d think it would be agenda item #1 for any half aware woman who has had any significant interactions with men and is in control of her own life. Instead it’s, “good for those women way over there fighting the good fight against men that are most definitely different than the men we have way over here who don’t warrant the same treatment at all because feelings.” It doesn’t even require the logistics or time required for political action or reform. It is quite literally inaction with instant impact. And that impact takes the form of a brewing national emergency the second any man with the right microphone catches wind of it.

2023-10-09 20:37:56

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No! The logistics of deep frying cheesecake seem dicey at best to me.

2023-10-09 20:19:50

Only in Texas would the waitress ask me if I’d like my cheesecake to be deep fried.

2023-10-01 00:00:04

AYYYYYYYYYY it has a release date now.
I'm ready to be stressed out.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDP5shkxocQ

2023-09-22 19:46:47

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You're right. Particularly if you have the high tops. I don't associate with high top Vans wearers. Only Converse.

2023-09-22 18:50:46

The high fashion selection process of packing for tour.
https://media.spinster.xyz/99024fcc8c54a58f7f17d63808867ae95ea181f38afeaa2bc7f01c5c882d6668.jpeg

2023-09-22 11:58:25

I’m not sure what the appropriate reaction is to someone who seems to somewhat routinely insert having thoughts of suicide into otherwise normal conversations. On the one hand, I don’t think I’m qualified to talk anyone out of it if that is truly their intention. On the other hand, is this person talking just to me this way for a reason or are they like this with everyone?

2023-09-19 20:40:33

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I should go to Europe for more lol. I'd heard the name before but didn't know what it was. Still don't really know what it is. But I do know it elevates cheesecake a solid ten levels.

2023-09-18 19:59:09

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A high school boy would do it for the meme.

2023-09-18 19:58:20

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He might end up drinking tea..... with the fishes. 🗡️

2023-09-18 19:50:07

Twitter is telling me that the Prince of England is taking boat rides around New York. Perhaps he thinks it's safer than taking boat rides around Boston.

2023-09-18 16:13:02

Whenever I see clips of The Walking Dead or related programming, I am curious about the characters. But the shows themselves are probably too stressful for me. The one episode of TWD I saw involved a crazy man beating these guys to death with like... a baseball bat covered in barbed wire or something. The funny thing I did note was that the zombies didn't even seem to be much of a problem. It's other people who seemed to be the problem. But ain't that true of life? XD

2023-09-18 04:26:21

I am now a full week removed from a multiple day stretch of being subjected to excessive bagpipe playing. I think I'm on the mend.

2023-09-17 03:27:33

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That sounds on brand lol. I know these two women in particular who live together now but even before they moved in together they seemed to go out of their way to be miserable 24/7. Complaining about everything yet doing nothing about it. Anyway, now they both don't have jobs, claim to be too anxious to even consider searching for new ones because "why rush to be exploited workers again?", and their families are both paying their NYC rents. Then they both message me separately about how much they dislike the other. I am looking forward to the conclusion of this particular storyline.

2023-09-17 01:16:03

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I just hope the high profile 21st century dudes wait until an optimal point in Star Wars storytelling to start the nuclear end of times.

2023-09-17 01:02:10

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I forgot all about Stalin. Humanity really produced a bunch of high profile dudes in the 20th century.

2023-09-17 00:29:48

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I know a woman who is from East Germany but then she came to the US as like... a babysitter or something? Freshly 18. Then she married the guy who is 20 years older than her. They're still married today and she seems jazzed about the whole thing but when she was telling me the story I was thinking "this sounds highly suspicious."

2023-09-17 00:16:39

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Thinking about the logistics of the berlin wall. If you wanted to get around it, why not just bypass berlin altogether? 🤔

2023-09-17 00:06:53

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And let me guess, you were also that one lady scientist in the background in Oppenheimer.

2023-09-17 00:02:27

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They wanted no part of your hairspray cloud on the other side.

2023-09-16 23:56:11

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Germany... 80s.... was that wall still up?

2023-09-15 16:07:06

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They can't find me in the caves!

2023-09-14 03:09:10

Do you find obstacles unique to forming meaningful relationships with other women?
If so, what do those obstacles tend to be?

2023-09-10 01:53:54

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Why are you continuing to do this despite saying you’re not interested in dating men?

2023-09-09 00:33:35

The beverage coordinator had a health emergency. He was the only one on site who knew how to change out the kegs. I YouTubed how to change a keg. I am now Keg Girl. This is how you get promotions at music festivals.

2023-09-08 01:56:38

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From what I have seen, I do not think lawn mowing should be left to our eventual overlords.

2023-09-02 22:31:15

Oh gosh it's a holiday weekend, my parents are out of town, but I've just been summoned to my grandmother's house to get dinner together with my aunt for my deadbeat uncles and my unhinged boy cousin. My aunt even said, "Please spare me the rant about the patriarchy." 🤡
Alright. Time to head over and cause some chaos.

2023-09-02 07:13:34

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I think with pop groups in general, you're going to see companies position them to take on more or less defined characters that they're marketed as. I think the most blatant example would be the Spice Girls as it's baked into all their stage names (Sporty Spice, Ginger Spice, Scary Spice, Posh Spice, Baby Spice). While I've heard of "girl crush" as a group/individual concept (which I just equated to anything vaguely leaning in the tomboy direction, something very easy in something that is so deliberately hyperfeminine) typical official K-pop roles are...
- The Leader (typically the oldest member)
- The Visual (the prettiest one)
- The Rapper (self explanatory)
- Lead Dancer / Main Dancer (self explanatory)
- Lead Vocal / Main Vocal / Sub Vocal (self explanatory)
- The Youngest (self explanatory)
Without looking up Itzy's fandom profile, from what I've seen of them I'd break it down into...
- Yeji (leader)
- Ryujin (rapper)
- Chae...something (dancer)
- Lia (vocal)
- Yuna (youngest)
Groups used to always have just one rapper but since hip-hop is so popular these days now you've got groups that have more rappers than singers (like BTS). Vocalists used to get a lot more attention but in past years have been pushed aside as all the music programs now allow lip syncing and companies focus on giving their groups difficult choreographies which also means they're looking for strong dancers to cast in their groups. But once you start winning music shows and need to sing live for the encore, that's when vocal appreciation comes in and if a new popular group bombs their encore stages, there's usually a lot of criticism. Doesn't stop them from being wildly popular though. There's a group called Twice that sells out stadiums at home and abroad and basically none of them can actually sing.
I'm not in the know on "queer baiting" discourse but I can say that two K-pop idols only need to breathe the same air as each other once before some segment of the population will start shipping them together. And I don't think that's limited to K-pop either. I think I've gotten a hint of at least some of that in anything any notable amount of women become interested in. There's even fan fiction out there about Formula 1 drivers which I found out during my five second foray into Tumblr after choosing Formula 1 as an interest. But yes if a company knows that certain pairing of people are popular, they'd likely be more inclined to send them out together for a variety show appearance even if they secretly hate each other.
I think in the grand scheme of things, Itzy's entire concept was intended to be "girl crush" along with pretty much any girl group that wears pants more than skirts. One friend of mine who is more keyed into current K-pop was calling a different group refreshing because they "broke the girl crush trend." Meanwhile it would never occur to me to call a group that in the first place.

2023-09-02 06:07:47

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That's a piece of cakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecakecake
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4rs-76SgRA

2023-09-01 20:31:18

It never occurred to me that cereal in America was not cereal everywhere until this moment.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJMdGjv637c

2023-09-01 18:50:51

While I am enjoying the Ahsoka series I am eager for it to end so that they can announce more books that will fill in this 9 year time jump we have going on.

2023-09-01 07:34:06

I was a huge fan of the Undertaker back in the day so looked him up and it seems like over the past year he's done a ton of interviews. He's alive and can still walk which far exceeded my expectations.
Creatures of the night rise~~~~

2023-08-31 05:13:06

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Oh no, not the braid!!!!! XD
Thank you for reading (and subscribing)! I don't know what I'm really doing with this page but have been wanting to put non-fiction material out there for a while so this is my attempt.

2023-08-30 20:58:04

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Is that true? I've never done Burning Man cause I ain't about that life. Also wasn't under the impression rich people went either as they wouldn't be about bartering for a burger.

2023-08-30 16:11:17

I just struggled for a good minute to remember how to spell the word "align." I was like... "aline"...."illine"...."eline"...."illign".... OH YEAH! ////align///.
Yes, my education was very expensive as you can tell. For a second I wondered if the word I was thinking of even existed or if I just made it up.
I'll eat more vegetables.

2023-08-30 15:54:44

I do remain... a little surprised by the legitimate religious fervor of TRAs. It's my assumption that secularism is still relatively new as a widespread thing. Even in democracies that claim to be secular at their core - like the United States - it has remained a decidedly Christian and Christian influenced area of the world. And I feel like current polarization probably has something to do with a secular component of the population solidifying to have its own religion-like moral code (thus creating the possibility of blasphemy). So whereas before you had one religion surrounded by some percentage of non-religious participants not particularly concerned so long as they could go about their own individual business, now you have two religions that seemingly have ties to considerable power and influence that are opposed on many things... one of which being how they want to go about harvesting women to maintain their way of life. So the result is me and those who share my opinions kind of feeling like this is some monkey in the middle game where obviously we have our stances but lack the religious fervor that seems like the only way to get listened to anywhere.

2023-08-25 14:13:35

My sister is out here trying to be the richest person in her friend group while putting the absolute minimum amount of effort into anything and everything while simultaneously ranting about the evils of capitalism and how she should be able to maintain a posh lifestyle by sitting around and doing nothing but basking in her own aura.
Meanwhile I'm working all the time but whenever I open a listing for a gig that's a little bit adjacent from what I do normally (like event production for a tech or pharmaceutical company instead of event production for an arts organization or band) with an obscenely high annual salary I'm just like "I don't know what's going on here but it makes me uncomfortable." *exits out of tab* 🤡
I think my parents wish they had a third child who would've fallen somewhere in the middle lol.

2023-08-24 21:11:21

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Did Frodo not sail away to go to elf heaven in the book?

2023-08-24 20:59:57

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Tell that to Frodo who throws the ring into the volcano then somehow there's still 40 minutes of movie left. XD

2023-08-24 15:47:50

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Never did i expect anyone to ever post an Allkpop article on spinster. XD

2023-08-24 15:05:31

For the past few months these same few videos keep popping up in my YouTube recs that are all live 9/11 news coverage. I’ve never once searched for this or anything like it and have zero desire to relive the experience. So algorithm… why? 🙃

2023-08-24 14:32:21

Interesting article. I’ve read a lot about cohousing and do suspect it will become more popular as millennials in particular get older because of the change in family making demographics. Good on these women for seeing it through!
https://archive.md/8tIiW

2023-08-24 02:37:02

I always get very caught off guard when I'm observing a conversation between two people about interpersonal relationships and they launch it with something like, "What do you bring to the table?"
Like... what? Is this a business partnership? Am I auditioning for a role? Applying for a job? Are we splitting up into sports teams?

2023-08-22 22:05:27

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I applaud your execution of that nonetheless. XD

2023-08-21 21:54:36

Apparently, Trump has until Friday to show up for his jailhouse orientation. My questions are...
1. Since when did the police give you a business week to turn yourself in... especially if they know exactly where you are?
2. I'm still assuming that there are enough loopholes in the system that means even if Trump does turn himself in, he's not going to be spending a night, let alone an hour, in an actual jail cell... so what is the purpose of the media frenzy?
3. Can he still run for president? XD

2023-08-21 19:16:04

90 minutes of new Star Wars tomorrow at 9pm! Should I order takeout? Pizza? Fries? Cake? Ice cream? All of the above for my one person party?

2023-08-21 16:08:27

Looking at this job that lists the responsibilities of four different people for the pay of half a person for the hours of one person. 🤔
But then there's the part of me that wants to prove I can do it.

2023-08-18 01:52:37

I don't know when, but at some point in my life I'm going to live in Chicago.

2023-08-17 21:02:34

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I haven't seen a Hoola!

2023-08-17 03:06:28

In a certain corner of the internet, the topic of color blindness has come up anew because of some drama surrounding TED Talk and Coleman Hughes. Even saw someone repost Kendi coincidentally bringing it up on LinkedIn, obviously taking the opposite position as Hughes. I haven't watched the new debate video. But basically, Hughes did a TED Talk back in May that was in support of color blindness as an ideal and mental framework. But the organization got back to him saying that they were not going to publish that talk on their YouTube channel. Through back and forth, they were convinced to publish it recently with the added caveat that there would need to be a longer formal debate about it. I'm trying to think back to when the position Hughes has been taking became so controversial even if I see how it could conjure up quite a bit of cynicism.

2023-08-16 21:19:05

I saw a clip of this a few weeks back and thought it was legit. Like I don't know what happens at Eurovision but I assumed this happened at Eurovision. Apparently it's a parody though. 🤡
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-OgkNgxm3k

2023-08-16 19:21:15

A good rundown for anyone who plans to watch the upcoming Ahsoka series!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Q9DkzJNmoY

2023-08-15 22:05:35

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Yup! And at least twice a year they start advertising the series finale along with all these clips from cast interviews talking about how the entire world was watching it. I'll give them the benefit of the doubt. Though my parents certainly don't think so. They can attest to the popularity of Batman though.

2023-08-15 22:03:29

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I wonder when donuts became the stereotype then! Or perhaps these magical magazine-ready cops had high metabolism.

2023-08-15 21:58:38

They're airing quite a pair of athletic Adam-12 episodes today. Perhaps this is an unintentional commentary on American fitness. I'm not sure how it was back when these aired, but I don't think the common criminal or the common cop could sprint these distances and scale all these walls and fences like a video game character these days. I'm almost inspired to get off the couch.

2023-08-15 20:42:32

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Salem knows that consistency is key!

2023-08-15 20:39:07

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Fascinating. I suppose this show could've taken place in 1878 as well.

2023-08-15 20:20:12

OMG ON THIS EPISODE OF WAGON TRAIN ARE THEY GONNA ACCUSE THIS WOMAN OF WITCHCRAFT???????? IN THE YEAR OF OUR LORD 188X????????

2023-08-15 14:01:09

Without previously knowing any details about this, I already found it highly suspicious. My sister (34) is planning on doing this funded by our parents (reportedly with money set aside for my hypothetical wedding). And I could go on about how my sister repeatedly lives beyond her means and would probably be a terrible mother but... that's beside the point lol.
But even with this pretty short video, there are so many red flags and question marks and cognitive foolery I don't even know where to start with a critique. 🙃
The "fertility industry" at large, frankly, gives me super bad vibes.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1aGXXkMgkw

2023-08-15 03:21:00

Old news but everybody sucks.
https://youtu.be/WvCld2vKug8

2023-08-14 16:03:28

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The left-handed appropriation must stop! XD

2023-08-14 14:47:03

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Glad to see it happened! Heard earlier this year that they might have to cancel.

2023-08-14 02:41:46

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All very good points. I have heard that even in super red areas, all these new abortion laws aren't getting support from the citizens. So I do hope to catch some of their debates to see what comes up about it. I don't get the cable news networks though so... perhaps PBS will come through lol.

2023-08-14 02:09:59

My sister mentioned to me that soon the debates for all the Republicans running for president will begin. I asked when the debates for the Democrats would take place. Apparently, there won't be any because - according to her - no one wants to make Biden look bad. Apparently, that is also the reason why only two people are running against him because to do so would be a damaging political move on account of running against someone requiring you to point out their weaknesses as a leader.
But... should we not be pointing out the weaknesses of our leaders? Wouldn't doing so motivate any given leader to do better? It seems counterintuitive to me that showing the holes in someone's plan in an honest to goodness debate is the whole purpose of having a debate to begin with. And is dissent not part of the whole purpose of checks and balances?
Then my sister goes on further to explain that because of that whole dynamic, none of the Democrats running against Biden have any real shot at getting a nomination. She pointed to that Kennedy guy that I see people latching onto explaining he was a crazy conspiracy theorist so even bringing him on TV is unthinkable because "it's bad to platform bad ideas."
And that seems to be straight out of the TRA handbook. There can be no debate because a debate means giving people who don't agree with us a platform. However if what they're saying is so unreasonable, shouldn't getting the upper hand in a debate be easy? If an idea is so terrible, will your mind really be corrupted by listening to that speech, reading that book, or watching that interview?
My sister thinks... yes, you would be corrupted. She says the average person is not smart enough to have adequate political opinions... which is basically the whole reason the electoral college exists... an aspect of our elections that has caused an earthquake more than once.
Idk. I might not know much about political strategy, but my sister is very keyed into things on the political left and the way she talks about it doesn't make the unspoken rules career politicians seem like a good temperature check of a legitimate government.

2023-08-13 18:04:23

There seems to be this genre of woman I encounter whose way of presenting themselves centers male ideas of femaleness (also known as femininity, a word I avoid to be less vague of what I’m talking about) and sort of double down on this by constantly talking about how hot they find similarly presenting women, proclaiming to be some brand of “queer.” But in their actual lives, have a well documented and never waning pattern of being with “above the national average” scummy men (both as friends and as partners)… to the extent they’re open about their PTSD, depression, anxiety, or even psychosis all over social media. Like first night of tour, getting ready for bed, “let me divulge my complete medical history and trauma to you” open.
We’re rarely close enough for me to introduce any meaningful conversation about it. And even if I did, I’m fairly certain it wouldn’t be appreciated. Just always makes me sad when I see it. Then they always end up saying something like “I usually don’t get along with women but you’re different” at which point I wonder what women they usually run into while hanging out with these guys. Probably women exactly like themselves… who they reportedly find “hot.”
How do you even begin to untangle that? 🙃

2023-08-11 15:53:20

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I do think about that every now and then. Apparently it has been renamed "mpox." CNN coverage from this year is as follows:
Jan 31 - Mpox is almost gone in the US, leaving lessons and mysteries in its wake.
https://www.cnn.com/2023/01/31/health/mpox-public-health-emergency-lessons/index.html
The interesting thing about this article is that it finally acknowledges the intentional misreporting. A friend got really mad at me for saying that if she wasn't a male planning on going to a gay orgy then she probably had nothing to worry about. Apparently this made me a homophobe promoting a "stigma." She specifically cited a young boy who got monkeypox who I think also had gay male parents so saying that this was an STI would make "the Christians" accuse this couple of molesting their kid. To prevent that, the narrative - in her words - needed to remain something along the lines of "he got monkeypox while rolling on the rug at his daycare center." Meanwhile, she was freaking out about touching clothes at the mall because they might have monkeypox on them.
Feb 22 - CDC advisors vote in favor of using mpox vaccine in future outbreaks.
Apr 13 - Almost 90% of mpox-related deaths were in Black men, and nearly all had weakened immune systems, CDC reports.
May 11 - WHO says mpox is no longer a global health emergency.
Four days later....
May 15 - CDC warns about potential risk of US mpox resurgence this summer.
And now it is August. Summer has pretty much happened. So I guess the males spent it spreading your more typical infections and will now overuse antibiotics as a response.

2023-08-11 14:28:20

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Omg, two points to me for reading between the lines lol.

2023-08-11 14:10:56

Saw a headline that said "STIs are on the rise in the US. A pill taken after sex could help slow them down."
But when clicking on the article, the opening sentence is, "As rates of sexually transmitted infections continue to skyrocket across the United States, a growing number of physicians are prescribing a commonly used antibiotic as a way to prevent chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis infections in gay and bisexual men and transgender women."
So immediately I'm wondering, "Is this reported rise only being seen amongst men or is it just men that have a readily available medical option?"
Still not entirely sure. Women are not mentioned in the entire article. But San Francisco is. A bunch of times.
So is this an everyone everywhere problem? Or is this a "men in San Francisco" problem? 🤔
https://www.cnn.com/2023/08/11/health/doxypep-sti-prevention-pill/index.html

2023-08-11 01:17:25

Me: Who's playing?
Sister: Spain vs. the Netherlands. ⚽
Me: I'll root for Spain. But all I know about Spain is that they probably had something to do with the Spanish Inquisition.
Sister: The Spanish had everything to do with the Spanish Inquisition.
Me: Well if they inquisited in the Netherlands this could count as a grudge match. 🔥

2023-08-09 21:30:28

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Haven’t seen this one. My sister said the LA Times and the Root also had one lol. But yes, about this incident.

2023-08-09 21:27:18

I’m amused how there are now entire think pieces being written about the boat brawl.

2023-08-07 19:29:13

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Whaaaaaaat

2023-08-02 19:29:15

Apparently the Head Canadian is getting divorced. But how long will Trudeau even be around? I feel like for as long as I've acknowledged Canada as a real place, he's been the Head Canadian. Do y'all have elections or does the King of England mail someone to you?

2023-08-01 22:46:12

I feel like every few months there's some massive headline about Trump getting indicted on something but I feel like that doesn't really mean as much as people want it to mean. Because then things continue as they were.

2023-05-08 01:35:49

Turtle the Plebeian's Book Musings:
A quick read of an edited TED Talk by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: We Should All Be Feminists (2012).
I'd say everything in here was your basic intro to feminism 101 (which is needed and still very much over the top for a good chunk of the global population... as she illustrates), save for a paragraph where she made the currently controversial claim that women are human females.
The big picture painted here is that everyone benefits from gender equality and everyone suffers from gender inequality. As such, we should all be feminists.. because equality is good. The avenue for enacting this change is to raise our children differently. This is, I find, a rather fluffy and optimistic take on things that I've long since become disillusioned with.
She also opens with a joking-but-serious account of how she grew to call herself not simply a feminist, but a "Happy African Feminist Who Does Not Hate Men And Who Likes To Wear Lip Gloss And High Heels For Herself And Not For Men" based on the unsolicited feedback she was getting from others while simultaneously pointing out how odd it is that women are so concerned with being well-liked. While in the end she describes why she calls herself a feminist, full stop, I think she stops short on the idea of women needing to be well-liked. Then again, TED Talks do have a time limit.
She describes the impact of a narrow view of masculinity on boys as one that gives them fragile egos since they are called out if they ever miss the mark. That impact carries over to girls who are then expected to go out of their way to cradle such fragile egos like raw eggs falling out of the sky. She says in the past, men were dominant because they were physically stronger and that was the most important factor but in the present things like intelligence, innovation, and creativity are the most important so things are allowed to change. She points out two prominent examples for which she was the most ready, willing, and able person for a task but was turned away specifically because she was female. I'd be interested to hear if she thinks women's freedoms and successes are contingent on the comforts of the modern developed world remaining in place. What does her take on dominance mean for less developed areas of the world? Should women there simply wait for their time to shine or should their strategy just be different? If so, what would those differences in strategy highlight about male dominance?
At one point, she says, “The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.” However, not too long later she says, "I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femininity. And I want to be respected in all my femaleness... I wear [pencil skirts, high heels, makeup, etc.] because I like them and because I feel good in them. The ‘male gaze’, as a shaper of my life’s choices, is largely incidental." To this, I'd be interested to hear why she is seemingly equating femininity (undefined but definition alluded to) with femaleness rather than as a product of a system she is setting out to criticize.
Ultimately, I'd say this essay has no teeth. But I also don't think it set out with that goal in mind. I'd be interested in hearing how her thoughts have evolved since this was published in 2012. Coincidentally, 2012 was the year I graduated high school. At that point in time, I think I would've agreed with most of what was said here.
https://media.spinster.xyz/a8e7813b5cdbdee3e3375e70dd77daa1eefe9eb537a226453ac4815b37638545.jpg