Paul Jones AIR

Adult Industry pro. https://badbutlerxxx.com
Free Links Pages and affordable sites for SW&FSSW https://allmyplaces.online

Owner of Relay https://adult.18plus.social - a relay for our industry, inc FSSW.

Avatar by - on Nostr - VelvetBlue_art

WIN your Portrait by VelvetBlue_art. Every week a model/performer https://adult.18plus.social member will win their own portrait:-)

Public Key

npub1xdt4sm0whlleve2jp2dwz75gh92zv36n0tl75f6htaxtnzl0lrrqjpxyv8

NIP-05 Address

badbutler@getalby.com

NIP-57 Address

badbutler@getalby.com

Profile Code

nprofile1qqsrx46cdhhtllukv4fq4xhp02ytj4pxgafh4ll2yat47n9e30hl33spzamhxue69uhhyetvv9ujumn0wd68ytnzv9hxgtcppemhxue69uhkummn9ekx7mp0gr398r

Publishing to

relay.nostr.band

nos.lol

relay.damus.io

Author Public Key

npub1xdt4sm0whlleve2jp2dwz75gh92zv36n0tl75f6htaxtnzl0lrrqjpxyv8

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Last Notes

2024-01-01 19:20:20

Playing with Rabbit.
Like it.
But, I think I need to prune my FOLLOWS. Can't see how yet...

2023-09-19 07:47:44

Nostrgram is back?

2023-08-20 07:02:44

Those of us who grew up with inflation, never really thought it went away.
Just sleeping.
Those of us for whom interest rates of 10-15% were normal, were never comfortable borrowing at 3 what would be unsustainable at 8

2023-08-19 06:49:26

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Why over complicate.
Just moves the trust requirement from Buyer Trusts Seller to Seller Trusts Buyer, (to release funds)
Buyers are, as a group, way less trustworthy than sellers, ("nah mate, it never arrived".)
And we have an whole entire legal system to handle any small disputes that crop up.

2023-08-19 06:28:39

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I get the impression it's a small start up.
I have actually had sensible and detailed DM with them, actual devs and team people, whichreally never happens...
If you reach out to them, you're probably dealing with a decision maker.

2023-07-28 05:58:10

Google on BBC Radio 4
Totally not answering the question about whether or not they would break end to end encryption in order to comply with the Online Safety Bill when it becomes law.

2023-07-27 21:27:52

So, Blackrock study implies 1BTC = $190M IN REAL TERMS.
Guys, those 69sats you're zapping, $13bucks a pop :-)
Relax, clearly someone is smoking something and they'll be rebranding as Crackrock.
Be nice though, even if they are 1% right I can retire to a villa and run it open house for porn production :-)

2023-07-27 18:23:42

RIP Sinead
THIS is the song that you should hear.
Voice. Power. Fury. 1987
And the world was surprised that she didn't bend?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0bjykX3D30

2023-07-27 18:06:32

Irregular Reminder that the relay adult.18plus.social is based outside the US in a country where consented porn and full service sex work are legal and will thus remain censorship free.

2023-07-25 20:22:01

No idea where this came from but Nostr is the right audience
https://void.cat/d/MVSZZHdhA9r4XocLf3tZL2.webp

2023-07-25 19:25:15

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For us, adult.18plus.social
Been running a while, quiet because I'm still not putting enough time into it, but when the rest of the Nostr relays go corporate Disney, we'll be standing proud.

2023-07-25 17:01:53

I seem to have got my alby wallet stuck at paying a fixed 50sats when I'm in Snort.
Any idea how to fix - just wantred to send more to someone...

2023-07-24 20:41:57

The only thing I own likely to do even better than Bitcoin is a Nostr t-shirt from early 2023.
Which is why I bought 2 of them :-)

2023-07-18 20:34:00

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The point about morals is that we disagree on them.
And you saying "my morals are superior" cuts no ice. You follow yours, with it's really bonkers and restrictive view of sexuality, and I'll follow mine.
Human sexuality is wide and varied. You stick to the type your morals accept, but DO NOT claim that other people who simply have a different framework shouldn't follow theirs.
Vegans tend to think eating animals is immoral. Catholics have strong views on abortion (based mainly on misreading the Bible). Europeans have issues with eating dogs. But horses are OK, and smart pigs are delicious.
Society and it's laws tend to reflect the "broadly agreed morals" of that societies elite, and sometimes they are fine, and sometimes they are Nazis.
Prostitution is a fact of life. If it's a moral issue for you, don't visit one. End of.

2023-07-18 20:15:21

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Where prostitution is accepted as something which is simply part of the wide spectrum of human nature, and is allowed, and the women can run their own businesses, etc, there are essentially no pimps. UK, most of |Europe.
Pimps, in the sense of controlling violent bastards, are a feature of societies that criminalise prostitution.
Prostitution does not harm when freely chosen (and yes, some do. For many it beats a minimum wage bad boss retail amazon warehouse crapjob). It doesn't wreck families - that relationship is already gone. It doesn't spread diseases. Prostitutes are very health focussed.
If you disagree with prostitution, don't book one. If you think music is the devils work, don't listen to it. If you think art should not represent people or animals, don't draw them. But DO NOT run around making other people follow your rules.

2023-07-14 18:57:57

Adult Nostr
Relay at adult.18plus.social
We're here to build and support the community. Becuase no other social media will have us soon.
Bluesky? As prudish as the (Meta) Borg
Any devs see this, PLEASE can we have a multicolumn client for desktop. Nostrgram was brilliant but seems to have died.

2023-05-25 17:50:51

Still here, just stuff going on. Also REALLY REALLY need a proper big screen client like Nostragram.co (RIP, it seems)

2023-05-16 15:25:46

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Oh yes :-)

2023-05-11 07:02:51

Nostrgram seems to have died.
Any other big screen client out there with multiple column layout? So good for dipping in and scanning for the good stuff.

2023-05-10 08:19:01

I'm in Hustler :-)
https://hustlermagazine.com/articles/foxy-over-50-xxx-male-edition/

2023-05-09 09:52:27

ZapPlanner from getalby allows recurring payments.
SUBSCRIPTIONS!!!!
YEA!!!!

2023-05-05 13:17:06

He's older, but he's on Nostr
https://void.cat/d/JRsw3QgY2ig3sK8MwmNbLn.webp

2023-05-03 14:58:52

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I've just sent it over, it's hard to explain nostr in word.
I really need to make some videos, with flip charts, pointers and everything!
In other news, I'm going to be in Hustler Magazine - part of an article about older guys in porn :-)
Have you touched base with Velvet re your prize yet?
Cheers

2023-05-03 10:52:31

Trying to write an article about Nostr for the Adult Industry is doing my head in!

2023-04-29 14:28:51

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It was.
Lightning is the Mosaic Browser of money :-)

2023-04-29 14:00:52

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This is :-
The client who said "no limits" when asked about his limits.
OR
The client who pushed boundaries with the wrong SW.
Hope the first, suspect the second.

2023-04-26 06:49:38

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Bitcoin is about people using their money the way they want.
My LN is custodial, that's not a dev problem. My LN is only ever a few bucks for spending. Worrying about custodial is like worrying that my cash is at risk if it falls out of my pocket. I don't care, it's my choice, it's $20
I use getalby - it integrates neatly with Nostr and my paywall. Perfect.
BTC is hard non state money. THAT is what matters and ADOPTION is what needs to be pushed.
EVERYTHING else is second order. Even privacy (because TBH, if the Gvt is after you, you'll break your own privacy the moment your crypto gets used to buy real stuff more than groceries). Build it, enable it, but don't fuss about people who don't like your view of perfection and happen to like simple.

2023-04-25 10:20:56

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Things take time. People will come at their own pace. When THEY get a reason. And those reasons will be practical ones related to their needs.
And mainly, it will be because Twitter fucks up in a way that pisses them off, not because of philosophy. Devs need philosophy to guide them. Very early users (us) are usually intrigued by and come to play because, philosophy, but the rest of the world. PRACTICAL makes them move. The rest, they can discover.
I pitch in my world as, "Like Twitter, but fans can send you money, direct, instantly, and you get 100%. All you have to do, join, bring your fans"
The Fans - join because their fave creator did.

2023-04-25 06:25:29

Do they understand what money is and how it works?
Yes : Promotes that people should be getting some sats to SPEND
Sorta : HODLs BTC
No : Buys coins without understanding their utility.
Hell No : "My savings will keep their value in the bank"

2023-04-24 19:49:17

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If you want to play with that, lightning.video is a site to look at, and over at my site my entire shop is paywalls after trailers* - badbutlerxxx.com/shop - we have to migrate fans to sats, and the world will open like a flower...:-)
Wordpress site, getalby.com paywall plugin :-)

2023-04-24 14:43:15

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Was going to zap, but can't. I'm on Snort.social with getalby wallet. Other people are zappable...

2023-04-24 14:42:10

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Was going to zap, but can't. I'm on Snort.social with getalby wallet. Other people are zappable...

2023-04-24 14:41:23

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Was going to zap, but can't. I'm on Snort.social with getalby wallet. Other people are zappable...

2023-04-23 07:08:32

So, today I need a Covid test...grrr

2023-04-22 18:40:39

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1k sats for even sounding like helping beat piracy.
BUT, npubs, indeed Nostr accounts, can be throwaway...

2023-04-21 07:45:03

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im now following you :-)

2023-04-20 08:38:40

MAJOR thread over on Xbiz as the adult industry starts to look at Nostr :-)
Guys, we need those "relay based feeds" asap. So, when you want porn, you open up your adult.18plus.social feed. When you want to knoiw what's happening in your town, the "Miami.social" feed (for example)

2023-04-20 06:27:00

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Oh, it says NODES :-) #[0]

2023-04-19 08:40:09

A good day at the office :-) https://media.nostrgram.co/i/10/media_105a9cd8af346.jpg

2023-04-19 04:46:36

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Escorting is legal. US Relays that allow escorts to be clear about what they do, will eventually be told by either LEO or Lawyers about SESTA/FOSTA. Twitter gets away with it because under their previous ownership they made it clear they'd take it to the Supreme Court. Most relay operators couldn't do that.
The Pornhub thing was because they allowed illegal material - minors - so the card companies kicked them out. You can still buy porn with cards. But card rules are such that you can;t buy some legal porn with cards.
Permmissive also isn't just law, its environment. On paper Russia is a democracy.

2023-04-18 20:13:54

My first box cover, from, far too long ago....(late 90's). I still can't pose for stills. Bodies are meant to MOVE. Together :-)
https://media.nostrgram.co/i/81/media_815accf9fe346.jpg

2023-04-18 20:11:48

This weekend, I get to get tested for my certs, have some photos done and talk geek about relays and social graphs.
Short of actually making porn, a perfect day. (And I might be doing the porn this week anyway :-)

2023-04-18 20:03:18

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I run such a relay. ALL relays will have to abide by their country rules re content. I do. I also WANT better tagging - no one see porn unless they want to - and RELAY based feeds. This means the porn is on porn, but also Miami Relay in effect becomes for the people of Miami and you get community building.
Because ALL community is small at heart. Be it the porn one, or the good people of Miami. At least i assume they are good. CSI isn't a documentary, is it? :-)

2023-04-18 20:00:18

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I run an adult relay adult.18plus.social . I require that content be UK legal, because I am bound by UK law. In many ways of course, those laws are far more permissive than those in the USA :-)

2023-04-18 19:58:08

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I already run adult.18plus.social - not just porn. UK laws mean escorting is fine too, which any US adult relay player will find, I'll go with problematic :-) SESTA/FOSTA are the keywords.

2023-04-18 16:26:57

Adult Peeps and Coders : This is being suggested as the code that in effect stops to you getting traction. https://media.nostrgram.co/i/97/media_97cd5eb4ce346.jpg

2023-04-18 14:05:34

If you are in the adult industry - porn, SW, FSSW, give me a follow.
I have built us a safe space relay at adult.18plus.social :-)

2023-04-17 06:37:52

My first box cover from back in the 90's :-) When porn wasn't socially acceptable and we were all pirates. In fact, in my country, it was illegal.
https://media.nostrgram.co/i/92/media_923f4f09ec346.jpg

2023-04-15 10:19:30

Is Nostr designed to be a great platform for adult content creators? No.
Is Nostr a great platform for adult content creators? Fuck yeah.
They'll come, once they know.https://media.tenor.com/IJbrwqKQhiwAAAAd/crowd-run-test-clip.gif

2023-04-13 14:31:53

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Depends on the client maybe?
I've used getalby since forever no probs at all. I use Nostrgram.co because I like big screens :-)

2023-04-13 09:06:10

Creators : Price in Fiat, get paid in sats using getalby WP plugins
I love this, it's so easy to use to sell content and so easy for anyone with a LN wallet to buy.
I use it to sell my content, but have set up a Safe For Work demo for anyone who wants to try it.
https://badbutlerxxx.com/shop/sfw-demo/

2023-04-05 09:19:22

At work. Sadly, today, not this type of work
https://media.nostrgram.co/i/19/media_1982911d3d246.jpg

2023-04-05 07:23:03

Sometime reminder that I run the only adult industry friendly relay at adult.18plus.social, join for future proof, WIN a cool portrait (if you are a model/performer).

2023-04-04 16:23:29

Have we got "pay sats to reach me by DM" yet?
Asking for an entire industry of OF creators.

2023-03-25 07:30:30

Waiting for all the adult industry and sex workers to find Nostr
https://media.tenor.com/-f8EgS5Sz6UAAAAd/tanner-wiseman-destination-fear.gif

2023-03-13 14:53:09

People wanting relays for specific use cases, and still the only way I can hint as to what people mine is for is in the name :-)
adult.18plus.social - paid relay 6969sats, but you were ahead of me :-)

2023-03-13 14:40:17

In other news peeps, the Spring Sale of bitcoin, all done. Normal pricing has resumed :-)

2023-03-13 14:37:48

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It certainly was, it's me they're hanging out over :-)

2023-03-13 14:36:47

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Bloody keyboard posting while I'm composing :-)

2023-03-13 14:35:37

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We need to broaden the topics of conversation :-)
It makes a nice change from GUN RIGHT YEA! and Sovereign
I'm European, ladies tits hanging out is totally normal. I get snowed under with So
I would love for NIP36 to be implemented.

2023-03-13 14:22:58

What I do at work :-)
https://media.nostrgram.co/i/01/media_014766a13f046.jpg

2023-03-13 13:58:41

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Tries again, using file upload for a classic imagehttps://media.nostrgram.co/i/dd/media_dd28cefb2f046.jpg
and it worked, hey ho grrrr :-)

2023-03-13 11:45:47

Is Nostrgram image upload broken?

2023-03-13 11:30:38

I do love my job :-)

2023-03-13 11:29:05

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Yes, user controlled. I'm in the adult industry. We like to show people what we get up to. But not everyone wants to see it, and they shouldn't have to (would love Sensitive Content NIP to be turned on. My relay at adult.18plus.social will allow Sensitive Content natch).
But also, I could quite enjoy a filter that removed any posts mentioning Sovereign Citizen or Jesus.

2023-03-13 11:16:29

If you in the adult or sex industries the relay adult.18plus.social is for us. UK law applies (so, YES to talk FSSW, but no extreme images - blood, things that an idiot copying could do harm to themselves or others).

2023-03-10 13:54:44

Twitter Shadowbanning seems to have stepped up a gear.
Come to Nostr - spread the word :-)

2023-03-09 17:15:25

Coming from an industry where we v are used to abuse, trolls etc, might I suggest that that HELL THREAD RULE 1 is "do not feed the thread".
RULE 2 is "find out who started it, and take them to a Scandi Noir dungeon for a little chat".

2023-03-08 18:48:32

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The resistance is that you can run your own relay. Like I do.
And if you run a relay, ANYONE (who wants to) can READ it.

2023-03-08 15:27:18

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Not purging yet, but I suspect longer term we'll be nixing all Notes older than 3, or if really swamped, 1, month.
Of course you can keep local copies of everything. For us to keep it might be a premium service.
Storing stuff costs money.

2023-03-08 07:25:20

Really need to be able to change the text of the landing page and T&C on Nostream so it suits the needs of my relay.

2023-03-07 17:21:39

General notice : If you know anyone who is in the adult or SW world (inc their fans), suggest they follow me. We're looking to build that community on Nostr, and the start of that, is the following each other thing :-)

2023-03-06 10:45:48

If you want a relay that will stay NSFW and will stay safe for adult industry and SW people, it's at adult.18plus.social

2023-03-05 12:42:36

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Yep. A lot of my future traffic will be Americans discussing sex work, esp escorts, because US Relays will become aware of SESTA/FOSTA and ban escorts from writing to their relays.
I, and my relay, are outside the USA.
What do I ban? Twats. I ban twats. Don't be a twat. :-) I will also bar writing if you post material which is illegal under UK law, but that's basically CSAM and "extreme porn". And, to be fair, that's a fairly narrow ban. Pretty sure 99% of bans will be "idiot".

2023-03-05 11:43:21

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Relays absolutely will have different policies. If only to abide by local laws.
I'm not a dev, but a series of fields allowing relays to define themselves in terms of jurisdiction, languages supported,
types of content accepted (Sensitive, Y/N), and (probably a text field as hard to formalise) moderation policy / expected behavior. Then other people could build "which relays are for you" tools

2023-03-04 16:42:12

Dear US Gvt. My relay at https://adult.18plus.social isn't based in the US, and nor am I. Both are in jurisdictions with actual freedom of speech :-) So yes, I will let people discuss things you prudes would rather they didn't.

2023-03-04 15:05:07

Swedish Jennifer is the first person to win a portrait because they joined https://adult.18plus.social :-)

2023-03-04 08:24:31

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Client apps. User is liable for what they post.
Media Servers. Generally carry liability for what they know about, or SHOULD know about, i.e. you can't avoid liability by not having a reporting mechanism, and you can't ignore that which you are told about. BUT generally no liability where your own ENFORECED rules are broken.
Relays - pretty much like media servers. So, in UK escorting is legal, and that content is fine on my relay. Blood in porn is defined in law as Extreme Pornography and is illegal. I am required to ban it, have a clear reporting system commensurate with my size as an org, and to ACT when I become aware of it. Whether or not my relay is the source is immaterial, what matters is that it is on my relay.
In the USA the spectre of SESTA/FOSTA etc will result in many relays being advised by their lawyers that such content represents a legal risk TO THEM. Some may be comfortable with that risk, others, less so.

2023-03-03 18:37:08

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I think the adult industry will. And be happy to have their own relays once the Sensitive Content NIPs are enabled.
Why? Freedom of speech. FSSW can be discussed in ways that scare US based companies.
Money. Banks discriminate. LN doesn't.

2023-03-03 18:04:50

TOMORROW some lucky member of https://adult.18plus.social will win a portrait of themselves by the same person who did devilish me https://media.nostrgram.co/i/7a/media_7a4fefb632046.jpg

2023-03-03 16:53:37

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Standard Paid Relay blocks NOTHING.
Right now they just stop spam, because spammers don't pay. Relay operators are very much publicly saying "we don't block, you need to mute".
IMO this will change - there is already a Sensitive Content NIP and when implemented that content will be blocked on many relays. Not on mine. That's when it comes into it's differentiated self :-)
I WILL blacklist npubs that hassle people though, or post actually illegal content under UK law. That means I can be cool with FSSW posts, whereas US based relays will soon find that their lawyers outline the legal risks they run if they allow it.

2023-03-03 16:48:23

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Yeah, I tried to add it to that list and I had to create a github account and then when i worked through it said I had to create a fork, whatever that is. So, gave up.
But it exists and it would be cool if you added it :-)

2023-03-03 10:24:59

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Hi tony, is wss://adult.18plus.social on your list. We have already noticed that some people join but don't then realise that they need to add us into their Client. Mutinywallet would be a big help there :-)

2023-03-03 08:01:13

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yes, my relay at https://adult.18plus.social is for all aspects of SW and fans/supporters.

2023-03-01 21:17:33

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That would be very good :-)

2023-03-01 08:05:34

Most relays are (apart from antispam) currently unmoderated.
This will change, if only for legal reasons.
adult.18plus.social is for adult materials. It is currently unmoderated, but idiots will be barred. People in the industry know what I mean by idiot :-)

2023-02-27 17:47:39

Having fun testing adult.18plus.social
WINNER so far is Snort - actual conversation going on. But Iris and Nostrgram don't seem to picking notes up from the relay. Hmmm
Posted on Snort

2023-02-27 17:22:46

Snort test 17:21 - does this get picked up by my Iris or Nostrgram? Does it get seen by Spectral in their Client?

2023-02-19 13:10:54

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In other news. People without all the evidence often reach the wrong conclusion. Human sex is MOSTLY binary, in the way that human eye colour is MOSTLY binary, but green eyes exist.

2023-02-19 12:10:46

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I'm on about 20 paid relays, which is probably excessive, but maybe pick 10? Astral.ninja seems to be a dev plaything right now, excellent profile editor and handles DM's well. Nostrgram and Snort can both be tempermental but I just assume it's a demand thing.

2023-02-19 11:57:19

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Baffled. Which client? and have you tried others? Sometimnes Nostrgram sends freeze, but Snort is very solid

2023-02-19 11:43:34

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I heard this on it's very first airplay. One of the most memorable listens of my life. Totally original sound.

2023-02-19 11:07:50

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They do drop into the void until you have found and are following lots of likeminded. TBH for our game, we're early. We're the people our people find when they turn up. One reason for wanting a relay for us - becomes a focus.

2023-02-17 12:29:39

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Not showing yet. Might take a while maybe (relays, so, not as fast as centalised). But look up the specs and make sure your wallet is right one. I just got told Getalby and it works, so, can't help further

2023-02-17 12:14:52

#[0] : welcome to Nostr :-)

2023-01-17 17:54:55

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Not entirely joking, but there is an ancient and global industry that keeps getting booted off ego owned social media and is largely banned from mainstream cash apps etc . Once they realise that an uncensorable platform exists where people can pay direct outside the financial system, they will, well, plus side, "drive adoption of Nostr and LN like wildfire" but also present a requirement for improved and easy to use curation tools so that people not interested, don't see. Heads up to the Devs :-)