Kyle Miller

https://KyleMillerCoaching.as.me/

Certified Life Coach Heal from narcissistic abuse and move forward with your life!❤ I love coaching and helping people. Schedule a consultation through the link.

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2024-11-14 21:09:10

Or woman, just to be clear. We all must take control of our lives and minds in order to have the life we desire. It's probably the hardest thing we can ever do, but nothing else gives us the fulfillment this does. #grownostr
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2024-11-08 18:40:33

Easier said than done, right? The reality is that this is a process, not an event. We practice celebrating ourselves and who we are. It's good to celebrate the things we do as well, but they are a result of who we are. Give yourself a little credit today for who you are. You deserve it! #grownostr
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2024-11-05 19:09:45

We all have them, but many of us have lost trust in our instincts and intuition. Learning to regain that trust is a process, not an event. It's something that builds over time. Allow yourself to trust the small things first and simply try it. This is how you regain the trust. #grownostr
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2024-10-29 16:06:58

Neglect is abuse. Whether it's from a toxic person or not. It does damage that takes years or decades to heal. It's also something that's passed down generations until someone does the work to heal this. Do the work for you and the ones you love and get away from anyone unwilling. #grownostr
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2024-09-09 15:08:13

Even when narcissists seem to get away with everything in the short term. In the long term they end up burning every relationship they have and die alone, miserable and lonely. They are perpetual victims of their own demise and it follows them through their lives. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/b746acb9e1922fa75a233171954c6682aa23e6e0ebbc308e6d43e7ca3f6a5763.png

2024-09-07 22:26:19

Most of it is about shame. It's much easier for a narcissist to find something to shame you about, than ever face the shame they feel. They want you to feel worse, so they feel less bad. They don't want to and are unwilling to do the work to feel better themselves and there's nothing you can do about it. #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/0fb28b920035cae53c65c75eb4e5b8329d09967f7305a1c8b96145483d68fc12.png

2024-08-21 15:58:51

Or at least this is what most people think. They actually don't love themselves or anyone else. Their only love is of more supply. Since there's never enough of more, their life is an endless meaningless pursuit of taking everything they can from everyone only to still feel empty! #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/e447d8ac790f74e7a663e5ede2c59f20dd91f3dd01f4e01d51f028eda2a4870b.png

2024-08-20 14:02:31

No one is truly safe around narcissists. Collateral damage is a constant around them if you're fortunate not to be the target. No one is innocent in their world except for them. There's no length they won't go to to get what they want even if it destroys them in the process. #grownostr
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2024-08-19 13:55:56

Narcissists thrive on making others feel small by undermining their confidence and self-worth. They manipulate, belittle, and devalue others to maintain a sense of superiority and control. This allows them to feed their own ego while keeping others dependent and insecure. #grownostr
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2024-08-18 21:18:14

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Thank you so much!

2024-08-18 21:06:20

The only history that matters is the one that makes them look good and innocent. It doesn't matter if they have to reframe, manipulate or flat out lie. They will never be accountable for anything even, and especially when there's clear proof. It will be erased or ignored. #grownostr
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2024-08-17 17:21:58

To be clear, they don't care about anyone else. They don't want anyone else to feel better than them, unless they can take credit for it. Even then, they'll cut you back down immediately. Since they're always miserable, everyone around them must be more miserable so they don't feel bad. #grownostr
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2024-08-16 15:46:41

This is not easy with seemingly more and more narcissists everywhere, or perhaps our awareness of them now. It is possible to greatly limit interactions and connections. They don't need to know any more than is necessary to interact with them and only if we must. #grownostr
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2024-08-15 13:00:51

I suppose the exception is they are genuinely narcissists, which is anything but genuine. This is because they have no sense of self or who they are. Everything they do is to manipulate for more of everything. There is never enough of more and it will never be enough. #grownostr
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2024-08-14 19:42:31

Narcissists simply will not own up to, acknowledge or change anything. They would rather burn down their entire life than admit anything. This is why we simply must leave. Talking or letting them know often makes things worse and gives them time to destroy even more things. Just get out ASAP! #grownostr
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2024-08-13 18:54:13

In reality, it doesn't really matter if they're a narcissist or not. If they are toxic to your life and your peace and not actively changing things, it probably won't change. The real question is if you want to continue to live in toxicity. #grownostr
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2024-08-12 16:43:56

In order to let go of emotions, we must first allow them to be there and face them. Only then can we use logic to help processing them. They must be acknowledged. Thinking that logically "we shouldn't feel like this" is avoiding and suppressing, not acknowledging and feeling. #grownostr
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2024-08-11 16:23:38

Narcissists intend to degrade and belittle you in subtle ways and make you think that's what you think about yourself. This is one of the ways they can lock you in to them forever because you begin to believe THEY are the best you'll ever get. It was and is a complete lie! You are enough! #grownostr
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2024-08-10 14:53:59

Everyone wants peace in their lives, or at least we say we do. The reality is that we can only have the level of peace we are willing to work for especially after toxic relationships. We must face and heal the demons we have been burying to truly feel the peace inside of us. #grownostr
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2024-08-08 14:57:43

Unless you are being discarded, there is never enough that you can give up or give to them that narcissists will let you go. They believe they own and are entitled to you. You must take you life back yourself. It will never be easy, but it isn't easy staying either. #grownostr
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2024-08-02 14:34:59

Narcissists will always expect you to choose them over everyone including yourself. However, they will never choose you. It isn't fair or right, but it's the truth. It doesn't mean we have to tell them this, but it does mean we need to be conscious so we can choose what's right for us. #grownostr
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2024-08-01 17:57:51

Narcissists are masters of deception. If they think you are going to leave and they don't want you to, they will change things. Let's be clear though, this is only enough and for long enough to keep you there. Then it's back to business as usual. #grownostr
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2024-07-30 17:25:40

There is no thought of earning or deserving anything. Narcissists believe they are entitled to whatever they want because they exist. This, of course, is always a double standard because the only thing they believe we're entitled to is what they give us, if they do. This is not acceptable and we don't need to deal with it no matter what anyone else says! #grownostr
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2024-07-26 18:11:32

Too many people are throwing this around. It's not just lying. It's lying in a way that causes you to question your own reality and sanity. It's leaving out, changing or adding details that are lies so that we question if we don't remember correctly. It's far more than lies! #grownostr
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2024-07-25 14:53:35

Nothing will ever be enough for a narcissist. No matter what you give or give up, they will always want more. The only way to break this cycle is to start giving to yourself in whatever way you can. This is something they'll never do for you. It's also an important part of healing. #grownostr
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2024-07-22 16:22:14

Healing is simply the fastest path towards ourselves. For many of us it may be the first time we have truly seen ourselves as who we are without shame or judgement. Then we get to decide on what we actually want in our lives. You are worth it and you deserve it!!! #grownostr
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2024-07-19 17:39:22

Even if you find someone healthy. If you are not healthy yourself, you will not feel safe in a healthy relationship if you don't outright reject it in the first place. We must feel love, safety and peace in ourselves first before we can truly accept it from others. #grownostr
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2024-07-19 14:18:25

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Thank you

2024-07-18 17:01:59

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Definitely not easy. Thank you!

2024-07-18 17:01:09

Wounds from toxic relationships don't simply heal on their own. This is something you must consciously put work into healing. If we don't do the work, we will end up hurting good people in the process. You didn't deserve the wounds and neither do they. Do the work! #grownostr
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2024-07-17 15:16:06

Too many people stay or struggle leaving toxic people because they love them. This love is usually one sided and they don't love you no matter what they say. If their actions don't show you they love you, they don't. Leaving is not an easy decision and one you must make for yourself. Choose you regardless of the relationship. #grownostr
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2024-07-16 22:29:41

Narcissists always use at least a tiny bit of truth in their lies. This allows them to point to the truth in an attempt to reinforce their lies. Just because part of their story is true, does not make the entire thing the TRUTH. Always separate the truth from the story they tell. #grownostr
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2024-07-15 15:38:17

Toxic people project on us that we are not deserving of anything. This is a complete lie and a reflection of them, not you! It doesn't mean we don't need to work for many things, but it does mean we are deserving of it. No one else gets to decide this for you. You get to decide for yourself. #grownostr
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2024-07-12 17:31:42

Not that narcissists really have joy, but they certainly like when everyone else is miserable. It makes them feel a little better seeing other people less happy than them. This won't change and neither will they, but you can move on with your life and you can heal. #grownostr
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2024-07-08 14:17:55

Almost no one ever truly sees the dark side of a narcissist unless you are the target. They show up with the illusion that best serves them in every other place. Their goal is for supply and nothing else. Their is also nothing we can do about it other than save ourselves. #grownostr
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2024-07-07 19:07:15

It's good to decide what you want or don't want, but often it's phrased as "I should" or "you should". This often leads to shame or judgement around these things whether we're aware of it or not. Shame and judgement always hurt us in the long term even if it's effective in the moment. #grownostr
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2024-07-06 16:32:33

We often knowingly or unknowingly try to shame or judge ourselves or others into doing what we want. Although it works sometimes, it often causes resentment and it's never actually helpful in the long term. Everyone must allow themselves to do it themselves on their own terms and timeline. #grownostr
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2024-07-05 18:13:52

Too many of us lose ourselves in toxic relationships. Through the process of healing, we get to find ourselves and who we really are maybe for the first time. No amount of feeling better compares to this. It's beyond feeling better, it's knowing who we truly are. #grownostr
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2024-07-03 14:54:36

The shame and judgement we have about our past is what truly holds us back. The more we can allow ourselves to let go of this, the more we can move forward with our lives. We've all done things we aren't proud of, but we don't' have to attach the shame and judgement to it. #grownostr
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2024-07-02 15:25:35

There is almost nothing that we gain from being in a toxic relationship. Only after getting out of these relationships and finding ourselves do we really begin learning and growing. Getting back to a baseline of health is first though, because we are digging ourselves out of a hole. #grownostr
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2024-07-01 15:09:32

Narcissists not only expect you to live the way they want, but also to do what they expect which includes reading their minds. The longer we stay, the more we lose of ourselves. The way back to ourselves is healthy boundaries. These are first built in ourselves before they can be expressed outwardly. #grownostr
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2024-06-30 21:23:41

We miss out on so many things being in toxic relationships. The biggest thing is getting to know who we truly are. Without knowing who we are, it's almost impossible to know who or what we want to become or do. Take the time to find yourself first. #grownostr
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2024-06-29 15:42:25

Narcissists are good at finding nice, vulnerable, caring people and pushing their boundaries to get everything they think they deserve. All the while never giving anything back that's not used for manipulation and control, whether now or later. Boundaries break this cycle. #grownostr
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2024-06-28 14:56:44

First of all, this is not something for us to shame or judge ourselves about. This is definitely something for us to become consciously aware of though. It is very hard to find solutions to move forward with our lives while we are only focusing on the problems. #grownostr
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2024-06-27 15:02:36

Too many of us wait for something to happen or for permission from someone else to make a change in our lives. Many may even disagree with our decisions. We must make the decision for ourselves what we want or don't want. Then we can ask for support in following through with it. #grownostr
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2024-06-26 14:46:28

Narcissists take many different forms. There is almost always a grandiosity about them. With vulnerable or covert narcissists. They must be more of a victim than everyone else. They have gone through worse according to them. This is why it isn't always easy to spot or recognize them. They are all different. #grownostr
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2024-06-25 14:49:13

It's almost impossible to accept and embrace peace in your life until you've begun healing the wounds from the past. We must allow ourselves to let go of the past to allow ourselves to step into a new future. This takes time, intention and work. It does not often simply happen. #grownostr
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2024-06-24 16:00:25

After being gaslit for years we lose trust in our thoughts and intuition. It happens slowly over time and this the the same way we must gain it back. This isn't something we can wait for, we must do the work to regain it. It's not easy, but that's how you get your life back. #grownostr
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2024-06-21 15:01:38

We've all gone through things in our lives, but this isn't who we are. It's not easy to discover who we really want to be, but it's something everyone deserves. You are exactly who you decide to be and become and you are the only one who can decide this for yourself! #grownostr https://image.nostr.build/73cf69775b7b3ea459f2225c301c86773dbdfb1a1a5a14f613708bb1d8f119b1.png

2024-06-20 16:16:30

You can't have a healthy relationship with a narcissist. You can learn better ways of coping with the situation and be healthier in yourself, but there is no way for the relationship to ever be healthy. Leave if you can, but at least set up boundaries to protect yourself. #grownostr
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2024-06-19 17:12:30

Enough time being gaslit in our lives and it may be months or years and we still question ourselves. Learning to trust our own thoughts again is a process that takes time. Be kind and patient with yourself. You deserve the compassion you offer everyone else! #grownostr
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2024-06-18 13:53:49

Narcissists don't want you to talk to anyone about anything going on in your life. Part of this is for isolation, but part of this is so they can keep you questioning your own reality and off balance. They don't want you or anyone else to figure out what's actually going on. #grownostr
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2024-06-17 17:52:52

Narcissists hate being exposed for anything that doesn't make them look good. They don't want the truth of the abuse to get out. Speak your truth, even if you need to do it in private. Find safe people who will listen and support you. They are out there and they want to help. #grownostr
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2024-06-16 19:37:13

Narcissists are going to be miserable for the rest of their lives because they refuse to change. It's not fair what we went through, but we can heal from it. Doing the work isn't easy, but it is possible for everyone that decides to. Take the time to heal so you can move forward. #grownostr
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2024-06-15 15:42:31

Too many people doubt they have the strength it takes to heal from narcissistic abuse. If you made it through it, you have all the strength you need. It's not scarier or harder to heal, it's just different. Unlike toxic relationships, healing gets easier over time. #grownostr
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2024-06-14 17:59:01

It’s heartbreaking to lose someone, even if they are toxic and even if you left. It was real for you no matter what it was to them. It’s still a loss we must grieve, even if it’s a win for our lives.
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2024-06-14 14:45:26

So many people try to insert their opinions. Even well meaning people. However, you are the only one that actually knows your own experience. It's ok to listen, but it's also ok to tell them you don't want to hear it or leave. Boundaries are a healthy thing for all of us! #grownostr
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2024-06-13 17:34:53

Narcissists will give the excuse of past abuse or a hard childhood as a justification for mistreating others. No matter what you've gone through, it's never an excuse to mistreat someone else. We all choose how we treat everyone else! #grownostr
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2024-06-11 14:34:10

Whether it's someone that's toxic or someone who is unwilling or unable to do the work. The relationship will only be as healthy as each person is. The healthier you are, the healthier relationship you can have. It also makes it much easier to avoid toxic ones. Do the work! #grownostr
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2024-06-10 22:03:20

Narcissists will blame you and everyone else for everything forever. They are simply unwilling to be accountable for anything in their lives. There’s also nothing we can ever do to change that for them. Let them be miserable and move on with your life.
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2024-06-10 14:30:30

Many people are waiting on healing for the right time, situation etc. There will never be the perfect time or situation. Right now is all you have. The sooner you start, the sooner you get to start living the life you truly want. It's not easy, but avoiding it isn't either. #grownostr
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2024-06-09 16:22:00

Narcissists get their fix off of other's suffering. They feel less bad about themselves the more miserable everyone else is. Instead of wanting to get better, they want everyone else to do worse than them. They don't care about you, only that you are suffering. #grownostr
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2024-06-07 20:07:11

Just because someone knows the language and can describe the abuse, doesn’t mean that’s not what they’re doing to you. Even though they might be accusing you of doing it to them. They can learn about it just as easily as we do.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/c8daba1cf3cdb1e9a7483b7f6bd3f98f872859508355381f64d5033965b93f78.mp4

2024-06-07 14:45:55

Many times when we're healing and feeling good, it will allow space for old or painful emotions to surface. This doesn't mean you're going backwards, often it's the opposite. Nothing has necessarily gone wrong. Take a deep breath and allow yourself to simply feel it and breath. #grownostr
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2024-06-06 14:12:09

Narcissist live in an illusion they suck you into, which then distorts our reality. This makes it very hard to see the truth of the relationship. Find people outside who see through this illusion to help you see the truth. They are out there and they want to help. Allow them to. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/E1mLvCEjuneTbHWFAxdXrh.webp

2024-06-05 13:39:34

Narcissists train and shame us into silence about anything happening in our relationship. The worse things get, the harder it is for us to say anything about what's going on. Breaking this silence is often essential for us to see the truth of what's actually happening. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/3Be84uHFpyU4bbZdAGBRwY.webp

2024-06-04 17:12:37

When we are in the moments of struggle it's hard to remember that we've made it through all the hard things so far. We can make it through all the hard things in the future too.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/4b40ec64ea16900fc7bf14eb8bd5176587f75ba998ed3434f4bc1210b8fccd2f.mp4

2024-06-04 15:05:16

Narcissists will share things with you to get you to open up about everything in your life. They remember everything and will begin using it against you in and after the relationship. Share things slowly in new relationships. They don't need to know everything now. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/NnnWuTbtD9Z5YeP2BNLqWd.webp

2024-06-04 00:15:19

Nothing is ever enough for narcissists. They will demand it and rage when they don't get it. No matter how much you give they will always demand more. It's not going to change. We must learn to give to ourselves first. It's not easy, but it's the only way forward. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/FL1YFerkou3UyMPgVbpEwC.webp

2024-05-31 21:24:00

Anger is part of the healing process. It’s good when we get angry. We should be angry about being abused. We don’t want to stay there, but we need to let it out so we can move forward with our lives.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/fca9887edd38e8cd3b715e7137096429353d7551eddb353f1e492fd93fd093ba.mp4

2024-05-31 20:42:10

Narcissists have been working and learning their entire lives to hide who they really are and control everyone else around them. The more we heal and the healthier we are, the easier it is to see behind the curtain. It also becomes easier to focus on ourselves than their "show". #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/Mgc9VzTHKtp6AZnYGrypej.webp

2024-05-30 22:01:26

We can't save anyone else. We can help them to see the truth of what's happening if they are open to seeing it. Pushing too hard usually just further isolates them.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/1f11fe80e3713542ccbcce790c74db6d796a714fda17d9e41dca7ce39f4bfd42.mp4

2024-05-30 14:24:15

Everyone gets to have a bad day or moment. When it becomes a pattern of mistreatment, that's abuse. No one deserves that. There is no justification for it and they don't value you. We all deserve people in our lives that value us. Find these people and let go of the rest. #grownostr
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2024-05-29 23:34:39

Most all of the things we want in our lives is all on the other side of the emotions we don’t want to feel. Just like everything, it takes work. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. It’s also not as hard as our minds make us think it is.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/c8fba0ed9666fb0bc7bfa1477a975c36ebaeb212373868c9eeb8cbdfd0ccb2c1.mp4

2024-05-29 16:06:12

Narcissists study and catalogue everything that triggers us. Then they will use every single thing they know to push us until we react. They won't stop until we react. When we react, they will shame us and blame us for our reaction while they play the victim. This is abuse!! #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/Usz8uX8gsw56Ba9cEUP63d.webp

2024-05-28 21:38:47

Narcissists will use you and everyone else they can far beyond what anyone has to give. Then they’ll demand more. When we can’t give them what they want, they find someone else that will. It isn’t right, but it’s the truth.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/095286b23268f2be697a328c448caa9928c8cbbe7a8d4bd4b7cd73d501bfaf15.mp4

2024-05-28 14:44:08

We often try to figure out how to get the narcissists in our lives to love us. The reality is they will never love anyone including themselves. We must learn to give ourselves the love we deserve. We all deserve this love and we can learn to give it to ourselves. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/B6ZbNZAUJeqNU5cBwHXtyc.webp

2024-05-24 20:09:52

Doing the work of healing is not just so we can feel better. It’s also so we don’t take unhealthy reactions and coping mechanisms into our healthy relationships. Do the work so you can leave all the hurt behind you.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/fb35d7ca7f47ea34b4130ab44845df76d837e25474ac985eeedbfa69f21fa0ec.mp4

2024-05-24 14:27:52

Narcissists control feels like they have strings connected to every aspect of our lives. Every string of control we cut is a piece of our life that we take back. This isn't easy. Acknowledge every string you cut. You are literally taking your life back one string at a time! #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/MDaTDL9ZqqhJxqHgiJPQHm.webp

2024-05-23 22:21:57

Narcissists aren't going to pay for anything they don't absolutely have to. Sometimes even court ordered.
They are entitled and don't think they have to do anything that doesn’t benefit them.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/847a48187ae620ab98ea3fcb639644715dc412e2cb292123039dc9fb05d22615.mp4

2024-05-23 20:28:12

My MacBook pro is dead apparently. Not quite 2.5 years of babying a high end product just to have it completely die on me. I suppose I should have had apple care, but I also figured with such a premium product that I wouldn't have any trouble with it. Especially since I took such good care of it.
No warranty coverage and not much help from apple. Send it in and we'll fix it for $800 minimum.
Not sure if I will buy any more apple products. Severely disappointed.
#grownostr
https://video.nostr.build/fe9bdb5499782fb7c186ad71660f66945452ffe2a1fe515f7d058959991671a3.mp4

2024-05-23 15:18:01

Many of us think that if we could just do or say the right thing we could get the narcissist to change or grow up. This will never happen. If they ever change anything, it will be to better abuse or manipulate us. Because they refuse to change anything unless it benefits them. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/QSQBjSiHPq7xNTVTCGihy8.webp

2024-05-21 20:57:13

It's not logical someone would take joy in hurting others. Unfortunately narcissists enjoy watching us suffer. It's not right or ok, but it's true with most of them. You do not need people like this in your life. Find people who celebrate you, not your suffering. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/DApsKW2Zsks56uucs91Ftb.webp

2024-05-20 21:41:12

There’s a big difference between narcissists and assholes IMO. One of the main differences I see is that assholes actually do care about people even though most of the time they try to avoid looking like they do. Narcissists try to pretend they care, but actually don’t.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/79350ad1f634da8fc5da30874cc7919fdfea35d5512a7ab0c239d4d3ad657cea.mp4

2024-05-20 19:44:13

Narcissists don't usually give an actual apology. It's always something like, "I'm sorry you feel that way" or something similar. The only possible exception is if it will make them look good to other people. If it doesn't seem sincere, it's probably not. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/FPS9JLcEEgKJokNyJ4KqRA.webp

2024-05-19 22:29:41

Being in a healthy relationship can feel scary and set off all of our alarms. This is partially because we’re used to the calm before the storm. In healthy relationships there is never the same kind of storm though. It takes time to get used to a new level of peace.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/fca936399ddb474db17c20e47f9610676e2f5d0e1ac5c1824f5ad5a319d23992.mp4

2024-05-19 18:16:58

No matter what anyone says. There is never a any reason for someone to abuse another person no matter what! The only acceptable response is to own what they've done and stop repeating the behavior. Anything less is a continuation of the abuse. This is never ok. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/USTGW5XUfyvtTPFQpkdkAm.webp

2024-05-18 17:01:35

Many of us thought we had found the person of our dreams. Instead we learned that our survival depended on us learning about narcissists and how to survive these relationships. Allow yourself to forgive yourself for not seeing it until you did. It was still real for you. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/2bXjTm5icUWAc5DEMckk7q.webp

2024-05-18 03:08:51

Narcissists literally use exhaustion as a tactic to control and manipulate you. The more exhausted you are the harder it is to think clearly which keeps you off balance and in their control.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/935b79b734d45543c2ce515aabbc0803bc05977a3c9f59ff04628e79b04983ab.mp4

2024-05-17 16:29:32

They may not be directly abusive. They could simply be neglectful and unavailable. It doesn't even necessarily mean they are a narcissist. It also doesn't mean that it's not abuse. Neglect is abuse. It's still harmful, it just looks different than other abuse. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/EB5RWZxH6Wt3HTrJraPm1h.webp

2024-05-17 01:51:20

Sometimes the only thing we can do is to move forward one small step at a time. Letting go of people we care about, who should or could be supporting us is a horrible thing to go through. Many times there is simply nothing we can do to change their mind. The choice is to stay stuck where we are, or move forward even if it’s small steps.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/5ecd0c6d363413ea52a8b6e8d8ba76fabe24872a898bc8fdb7a9eea638d0e0b4.mp4

2024-05-16 14:32:17

Narcissists create drama and use our reactions against us. Being OK is often survival of these relationships. After getting out, it's important to begin acknowledging the way we actually feel to ourselves and those we trust. This allows us to process and release these emotions. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/8Av97KEti8FGX6GqFp7vP9.webp

2024-05-15 22:00:23

The sooner we accept that narcissists are the way they are, the sooner we can actually focus on what matters. Moving forward with our lives and focusing on ourselves and the people who truly matter. Not accepting this keeps us stuck and that’s what they want.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/dc66bfc60d08c637a390364e588ec729cf012f9368721d29aa4e704a98e00987.mp4

2024-05-15 14:57:08

The good news about taking this masterclass is after you've done the work of healing you may never need to take this class again. If you do, the chances are it will be a much shorter class than the first time and you'll heal much quicker with less effort. This, unfortunately, is the only good news about this class. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/CTyePXkW6yTiwipS7UsLAg.webp

2024-05-14 16:49:06

The chaos we learn to live with in narcissistic relationships is not easy to undo. It takes a lot of work to be able to accept and embrace the peace that we actually want. In many subtle ways we end up creating our own chaos because the peace is dysregulating.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/50bdd0388beed7eb91d5176b0e94c5c8175243d083639f7ebc56eaec8b343b38.mp4

2024-05-14 14:58:24

Narcissists act and treat us like anything we ask for is too much. Just because they are unable or unwilling to give to us doesn't mean we need to settle for it. Never settle for someone who is unwilling to reciprocate the love, effort and support you give them. You deserve more! #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/LZkzpWFVuDdswPGExg8ocs.webp

2024-05-13 21:37:56

A glimmer of hope is the best you’ll ever get out of a relationship with a narcissist. Things may be a little less or more bad, but never get better. Don’t future fake yourself into staying for longer than you absolutely have to.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/55a126fb9369caa2de3b027f99926c47acb899aa78ed93a550c3570c0827f5cc.mp4

2024-05-13 15:16:24

It's not easy to learn to set boundaries for yourself, especially after someone has walked on, abused and broken every one you had. It is something that's possible for all of us to learn. Be kind to you in this process. Every single boundary you work on is a step forward. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/Xw7WGsqiUCYaUQD9nnh1Fq.webp

2024-05-12 18:04:31

Happy Mother’s Day! Try not to let the narcissists in your life get to you. And if they do, be kind and compassionate with yourself. It’s not selfish to do something for yourself and take care of you or anyone else you want to.
#awareness #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #personalempowerment #grownostr #personalempowermentcoach
https://video.nostr.build/d8b643ab67aa22033543ea109af6f8d053017aea4f7dc18b9bc47bbe361a3ac2.mp4

2024-05-12 17:31:36

Our mental health is so important. Often it's hard to know what to do for ourselves. What to do is much less important than simply doing it. Even if it seems like it's nothing. Take the time to go get away. Any time is better than none. Sometimes nothing is what you need to do. #grownostr
https://void.cat/d/6Qb7yHNRwmNysVsemt18T2.webp