Grissallia 🏳️‍⚧️

40-something spouse/parent/gamer.

#BadChristian, #AuDHD, #trans 🏳️‍⚧️

Terrible at writing bios.

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2024-08-11 01:27:25

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@npub1fuh…3kut What did Keating do?

2024-07-08 03:27:23

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@npub1mpw…4h3u and it's so obviously done that Hank can get up at estimates and proudly claim that all calls to Centrelink are now being answered, and that the problem is "fixed"

2024-05-30 02:00:31

I was laughing so hard my wife came to check and see if I was OK.
Only watch this if you're safely seated, without food or drink in your mouth.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j_-1CeYEwVY

2024-05-21 23:47:23

I cannot emphasise enough how untrustworthy LLM-based AI is, and how much harder it's going to make life.
I asked Windows Copilot for instructions on how to uninstall Windows Copilot.
Almost everything it advised was incorrect. This is working with a system I know.
What if I asked it how to do something I didn't know about?
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2024-05-16 01:49:03

Every time I think Scott Morrison has reached his nadir, I discover he’s plumbed a new depth.

2024-05-15 00:11:17

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It’s not that dental care is unaffordable, it’s just that I prioritised keeping a roof over my family’s head, and food on the table, in a single income household l, over getting dental work done. I brought it on myself.

2024-05-04 21:50:52

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@npub16hv…sz5u [alt text Chef's kiss]

2024-04-13 01:12:25

Our 11yo, as we got back into the car after his swimming lesson:
Him: “You know, I thought you’d be invisible.”
Me: “uhhhh, what?”
Him: “Well, because you’re a trans-parent.”
Reader, I howled with laughter.

2024-03-03 06:41:54

NewsCorp definitely aren’t mad at MetaFace.
“and another thing: im not mad. please dont put in the newspaper that i got mad.” - dril
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2024-02-07 23:33:43

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@npub16mz…hm5n So... BadAbs Britt then?
I'm sorry, I'll show myself out. :p

2024-01-08 22:27:22

Thank you, all of those who helped the queen of the transphobes to continue funding her campaign of bigotry against us.
We really* appreciate** your support.
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2023-12-09 01:23:05

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@npub1uw3…jxkr @npub1xr8…3q0g erm… this feels a lot like another war, where someone declared that Ukraine was just the start.

2023-12-09 00:15:05

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@npub1xr8…3q0g child has been deeply wounded by this and I have nothing to offer, beyond comfort and love.
Which is great, but doesn't pay the bills.

2023-12-09 00:09:09

Zero to rage in 60 seconds.
$offspring (adult!) had worked for $franchise happily for two years, and then left a particular store after a new manager there started causing them grief, and they were coming home miserable after every shift for months.
After taking a break, they applied for job in same franchise, different franchisee several suburbs away. Got job. Were feted for their speed and accuracy, and the noted improvement in internal statistics and KPIs during their shifts. Were consistently praised for taking initiative in doing tasks that other employees had to be prompted for.
Franchisee was opening new franchise store nearby. Offered $offspring management role, to start in December, started them in the internal management training program.
Everything going great, $offspring excited.
A few weeks ago, $offspring suddenly getting no shifts. Zero to one occasional shift. No longer going to new store.
$Offspring upset, won't explain, apart from odd comment about hating themself.
This morning, $offspring explains, while I'm making breakfast.
$Offspring had mentioned in passing at work, that they're #autistic.
A couple of days later, $manager meets with $offspring, says they want to delay moving them to new store, concerned that the pressure might be too much.
Not based on any performance at current store, just "concerns". Then current store stops rostering $offspring on shifts.
(Same $franchise used identical mechanism with eldest, neurotypical child when they reached 19. Just stopped rostering child on.)
$Offspring cannot prove anything. Nothing in writing. Just no more shifts.
$Offpsring knows, though.
I'm furious right now. #Ableist assholes.

2023-12-04 21:36:35

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@npub1psd…9sr7 I fully expect to get an email from the right-wing sociopath email lists that I can't escape with an article like this tomorrow:
"The left wing has reached new depths of depravity, openly advocating for necrophilia to be accepted as part of the LGBTQ community."

2023-11-23 12:31:00

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@npub18p3…03wh I feel this, but for a slightly different reason. It's only just recently that I've started processing that I don't know what my own needs and boundaries are because I spent so much of my adult life adjusting my boundaries for everyone else, that it just felt normal.
Once I kept adapting for other people, they expect that I will continue doing that, and realising that the one of the reasons I'm constantly out of spoons is that I never say "This far, and no further" is massive.
It just sucks that the people in our lives who we most need to respect our boundaries are the people most likely to jack up with us for setting them in the first place.

2023-11-22 21:34:00

"Hey Allie? You seem deep in thought. What's got your attention?"
A heavy metal cover version of Frank Sinatra's "My Way", sung by Sir Christopher Lee.
"Wait... what?"
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2023-11-16 23:32:00

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@npub1zc4…mc2z every time I see or read a parent ranting about how they clothe and feed and keep a roof over their children’s heads, I want to just start yelling at them.
“THAT’S LITERALLY WHAT YOU SIGNED ON FOR YOU SELFISH FUCK!!! THAT’S THE BARE FUCKING MINIMUM.”

2023-11-16 22:58:48

I… think… I was just on the receiving end of an extended piece of mansplaining, by a man who perceived me as a woman, and then proceeded to talk down to me for an extended period of time, while ignoring everything I said in reply.
Kind of guy who almost certainly thinks women are mad at him all the time, but if they just listened to him, they’d calm down.

2023-11-10 00:13:45

Dismantled the tower fan to clean it.
Mistakes were made.
1. I'm very allergic to dust
2. I started cleaning it inside. In the study. An enclosed space.
3. I took it outside, where the gentle breeze could whip the dust around me instead, and the dog could sit at my ankles while I cleaned.
The dog is now sneezing too (I am also allergic to the dog).
The tower fan blade is a sealed unit, and so while I was able to clean the blades, it now contains a giant dustbunny. At least it cannot escape and wreak havoc.
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2023-10-29 21:41:03

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@npub1xr8…3q0g A couple of days ago I saw the before-and-after photos and thought to myself "This isn't about terrorism. This is simply using Hamas as a pretext to raze Gaza."

2023-10-27 23:07:23

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@npub178r…qekt @npub18rf…dxj4 Can this be used to make stereographs?

2023-10-26 06:56:46

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@npub1yk6…4zz4 say it louder for the racists in the back.

2023-10-22 10:22:43

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@npub18p3…03wh seems like it was the night for nightmares. Woke up from a nightmare that's haunted me all day.
The worst part was that in the dream I couldn't talk and my mouth was like the Sahara, and I couldn't get anyone to give me water, and I woke up gagging for breath...and with my mouth completely dried out. It was surreal.

2023-10-16 02:54:45

"Scratch a transphobe, find a racist." Every fucking time.
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2023-10-04 02:05:46

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@npub1jeq…jglm @npub1lks…weg9 ohhh! I have a 24” and a 32” monitor on arms that both support pivot mode. This never occurred to me.
I also have THE greatest pinball game ever of Pinball FX3…

2023-09-28 21:40:43

Me: "Imma sleep in tomorrow"
My cat, at 6:30am: "I NEED TO PULL THE HEATING VENT OUT OF THE FLOOR!"

2023-09-27 01:50:53

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@npub1yf4…fcsf How would we tell the difference?

2023-09-21 09:11:59

Are. You. Fucking. Kidding. Me?
A year ago 4BR rentals in our suburb were $650 pw.
This is the second time this week I've seen this pricing.
I mean since wages are up and inflation is down, I guess it makes sense.
Oh. Wait. It's wages that are down and inflation that's up.
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2023-09-20 22:09:25

Today. I do not want to.

2023-09-19 23:49:00

Google, appropriately, identified this as spam.
I see the Liberal Party still refuse to honour my multiple unsubscribe requests. I guess they find consent difficult to grasp.
Also, the "noreply" is just [chef's kiss dot gif]
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2023-09-15 00:23:18

In an alternative universe, I became a Pentecostal pastor and never learned to (ab)use Photoshop.
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2023-09-09 03:16:37

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@npub15l7…aang ...but now I am a Ms.

2023-08-20 09:29:23

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@npub1dzj…4cun I think I need to add a note; I'm not a dev, I'm one of the tech support seniors, the one who keeps ending up with all the hard nuts that no-one else wants to try and crack, because one of my superpowers appears to be making angry people not-angry.

2023-08-18 23:47:17

A little professional story:
Please be kind when "correcting" co-workers about something you feel they've misunderstood or are just wrong about.
One of the really weird things in my life is that I seem to encounter -or trigger- edge cases.
For non-technical folks: an "edge case" is a generally rare bug that only occurs under a very particular set of circumstances, usually quite obscure.
Someone might report a bug that no-one can reproduce, and it turns out that the bug only occurs on the last Friday of the month, if the device is used between 9pm and 10pm. We refer to something like that as an "edge case".
A few years ago I found a *really* weird bug in one of our products, and I mentioned it to one of our senior developers.
That person then proceeded to loudly, and in front of an entire group of co-workers, lambast me for something that was OBVIOUSLY end-user error, and was "fundamentally impossible" to be anything else.
It was one of the most humiliating professional experiences of my life.
It made me incredibly wary of raising Jira tickets, unless I could fully reproduce and document a bug.
A couple of years after this incident, I was chatting with another dev who'd started working with our company, and was in QA, and he mentioned this edge case he'd recently encountered.
If condition A, and condition B, and condition C, AND condition D were all met, it would trigger this really weird bug.
...the same one I'd mentioned to one of our senior devs a couple of years earlier. It wasn't end-user error. It was an edge case.
[sigh]
Yesterday during our weekly technical meeting, I asked a question as to whether an underlying software process had been significantly & quietly changed recently.
I explained that I'd encountered a number of weird incidents over the past couple of months, but nothing I could log or document, just that I had a gut feel that there's a intermittent bug in play, and that after my 15-hour day on Wednesday, I was now almost certain that changes might have occurred in that particular process.
Turns out that entire process had been rewritten.
I was asked why I hadn't raised any Jira tickets for it.
Our dev team could have had a couple of months headstart on this issue, and documented occurrences of it, if a deeply frustrated and under-pressure dev hadn't publicly ripped me a new arsehole five years ago.
Everything is copacetic. No-one is upset with me, the dev who asked me why I hadn't raised the ticket was the QA dev, and all I had to say was "Bug X", and we both laughed, and the dev team gets more of my "gut feel" bug reports moving forward.
The other dev and I are on excellent terms these days as well. I went to the mat with them three years ago, and they apologised, and we talked out our differences, and we have a great working relationship now.
How you treat people matters, even in a moment of deep frustration, and can have long-term consequences in ways that you may not expect.
Be kind. Always.

2023-08-15 22:19:12

Today feels like one of "those" days. The ones where I should just take a mental health day.
However, I am unable to do so.
My brain is screaming though, so...

2023-08-12 04:28:04

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@npub1xr8…3q0g that’s the thing; because it’s “flu like” symptoms, I’ve been processed through the medial centre’s PPE clinic, and it’s been a different GP each time. The one before this suggested puffer+spacer, but when I mentioned it to this GP, he just said “no, just use the inhaler and rinse properly”

2023-08-12 01:00:45

GP: "OK, I want you to use the steroid inhaler twice a day."
Me: "Last time I did that I ended up with a terrible oral thrush, and I rinsed so much to try and avoid it."
GP: "Don't worry. As long as you rinse properly, you will be fine."
Me, 24 hours later. "What's this horrible taste..." [grabs mirror and torch]

2023-08-09 09:27:14

I'm sitting here trying to process the Seagate "support" experience I've had over the past nine days, and the only word is "enshittification", per @npub1hyk…3p33
It's as if Seagate management set out to individually enshittify every single step of the support process to making as close to impossible to get support for a consumer level product, without just saying "Fuck you."
There are virtually no consequences for this deliberate enshittification of their support process. What other options are there?
Seagate no longer have a support number.
Seagate no longer have a support email address.
Seagate have a pop-up live chat. That's it.
The live chat will intermittently lose contact with the server and just say "Error" forcing you to reload the entire webpage.
The only way they could enshittify this process further would be to replace the apparent "live agents" with AI chatbots, and that may well be an improvement.
1st August: my less-than two year old Seagate Barracuda drive failed under warranty. After navigating my way through the live chat, and providing all of my information, I asked for an advance warranty replacement, which i was promised (per the chat logs). I receive an RMA form. I wait.
4th August: I put my RMA details into the Seagate RMA lookup to find out what's happening.
"Invalid details."
I reach out by the Live Chat. I have to enter ALL of my details again, in spite of having an RMA number.
The live agent officiously tells me to "be patient" and "you will get your drive", and that sometimes the form is slow to update.
7th August: The form is still reporting invalid. I reach out via Live Chat again. I provide all my information, yet again. The agent insists he has to create a new case, in spite of me having an RMA number. "This is your case number, please note it down for reference."
Him: "Oh, the lab is waiting for your faulty drive."
Me: "This was advance replacement."
Him: "It wasn't."
Me: "Here's a screenshot of the agent telling me it was an ARO."
Him: "Oh, OK. I'll arrange an ARO. You'll get some forms in your email, and a link to provide credit card details in case you don't send the drive back. This is your case number.
Me: "Fine."
ARO form. Nothing else. No link. No details.
9th August (today): An email from another new person at Seagate with my case number. No other information. I reply via email "What's the next step."
"Thank you for your email, this email address is not monitored. Please use Live Chat."
I. Go. To. Live. Chat.
AI bot: "Please enter all of your information:"
Me: "No. Here's my case number. Sort it out."
Live agent: "How can I help?"
Me: "I received an email from Support. I cannot reply via email. I don't know where my replacement hard drive is."
Agent: "Actually, you can reply via email, it's just faster via live chat."
Me: "Here's a screenshot FROM SEAGATE telling me I CANNOT reply via email."
Agent: "Oh. Please wait."
[Eons pass. Glaciers melt. #Enshittification continues.]

2023-08-03 21:26:56

safelosing [ seyf-loo-zing ]
noun
1. (ADHD): the act of carefully putting something very important in a safe place so as not to lose it, then forgetting where you put it.

2023-07-17 02:49:03

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@npub1va4…5eh5
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2023-06-28 03:22:58

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@npub1zqf…2a0w As level 3 tech support, and way too many years at the coalface, can confirm.
Yelling at anyone in the chain is going to get you nowhere at best, and may find new and unexpected difficulties in resolving your problem.
By the time you get to the upper levels, the people in those roles are generally motivated to resolve your problems to the best of our abilities. The quickest way to demotivate us is to abuse us. I frequently have up to a dozen high priority demands on my time.
We are humans, we are usually stressed, and we want to do the best for you we can. If you want to make my life harder because you believe you're entitled to priority service, or because you're too immature to act like an adult, you will be deprioritised.
The ones that I can resolve without an emotional cost WILL get prioritised over an abusive customer, because we have to manage our time and emotional energy.
If I know that resolving your issue is going to ruin the rest of my day because you can't control your temper, I'm pushing off contacting you until close to the end of the day.
That's not being capricious or mean, it's being fair to all of the *other* people I'm also trying to assist. If your inability to manage your emotions is going to make it harder for me to do my job, then I may resolve your issue in half an hour, but wait until the end of the day to let you know so that I can let off steam immediately after dealing with you.
Oh, and demanding to speak to my manager? Congratulations. I have an *excellent* working relationship with him, and a track record of keeping problems off his desk so he can focus on his priority tasks.
Which means that when you pull that shit, he KNOWS what kind of person you are, and he will most likely take your call, then finish the call, and tell me to continue as I was.
In the six years we've worked together, I think he's asked me to prioritise an angry client once (and with very good reason).

2023-06-25 04:56:34

Transphobes demanding I scientifically prove gender identity exists: fuck you.
You’re a meat bag walking around controlled by a ghost. Scientifically prove *you* exist. Show me on an fMRI where your love of chocolate is. Show me in your DNA why you’re attracted to people of the opposite gender. Show me in your blood tests why you’re such a hateful little asshole.
Show me the science that proves your consciousness exists.

2023-06-21 14:55:06

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@npub1psd…9sr7 This is the bleakest shit I've read this year, and that's even after Husk's "cis is a slur" bullshit from today.
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