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HannahMR

Developer Advocate at Lightning Labs | Organizer of San Juan Bitdevs | Founder of Velas Commerce | Here you'll find Bitcoin, Lightning, and whatever is on my mind.

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2025-05-15 17:33:19

How many relationship issues are caused by couples blindly accepting the “traditional” one-size-fits-all relationship model?
I love the concept of designer relationships. You can just make your own rules! Do whatever the @#$$% works for you and your partner.

2025-05-09 14:28:28

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2025-05-08 14:11:33

To exist in time, without changing... that is death.
Does that make sense in your head? It makes sense in my head.

2025-05-07 20:44:27

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2025-05-06 15:36:05

You can have a drink in any Sci-Fi universe of your choosing, with any character from that universe, in any location in that universe.... what are you choosing???

2025-05-05 14:39:16

Generally true, but also, there are times when "all the experts" are indeed wrong. And once you experience that in your life, you can't blindly trust again.
The answer is do your own research, but be humble. Sometimes "they" are wrong, and sometimes you are wrong.
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2025-05-01 15:53:36

Being a young woman in the 90’s was shitty. I lived as prey. Things are so much better now.
Yes there is still a lot of misogyny to deal with. My daughters know who Andrew Tate is 🤢
But now is better, the misogyny now is blatant and cartoony rather than subtly accepted by everyone. Upgrade!

2025-04-17 16:24:22

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So if we want Bitcoin to be money, and fungibility is very important to money, and we want to protect Bitcoin from some sort of fungibility attack, is it perhaps a bigger risk to have such high use of large custodians? Via large custodians is of course how such an attack would be applied.
And if large custodians are a big risk, how can we encourage people to make use of self-custodial options?
Can we make LN wallets that are user friendly enough without these new opcodes? https://m.primal.net/QTsN.png

2025-04-15 15:33:18

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2025-04-07 16:31:43

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I wore eyeliner at mine!

2025-04-07 16:12:56

People talking about no-makeup selfies, and I'm just out here on decade 4 of my no-makeup life.

2025-04-04 13:25:25

My concern about Trump isn’t so much about his policies, (the disrespect for the judiciary and due process is VERY concerning) but my big concern with Trump is his effect on common culture and values. He speaks from a point of view of hierarchy and violence. This mindset regresses human progress.

2025-04-03 16:23:06

Sometimes I’m on work calls and doing intro stuff and telling people I do ABC, and XYZ, etc. and then later I’ll mention that I have kids and often people will say “O wow, how do you do it all!?!?”
I can “do it all” because I have a real partner.
Not just a husband, but a full family and life partner. Someone who is a real father to our children, and someone who actively encourages and helps me.
Because I don’t want to “do it all”, that’s bullshit, I want to be well supported. And I am 🫶

2025-04-03 16:22:13

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I've heard the theory that this is bargaining chip. the idea being that the US will agree to drop the tariffs if other countries agree to buy more treasuries. And that this is a long term plan to lower interest rates, and help our fiscal crisis ...not quite sure how that all lines up, but I hope there is a plan!
But there is always the possibility that the 'people in power' are just being vengeful assholes. That has happened a lot in human history.

2025-04-03 12:16:34

Tariffs are bad. Not to mention pretty contrary to that whole free markets idea.
With tariffs you get wasted resources from inefficient domestic production (not to mention the dangers of encouraging domestic businesses to produce things that they don’t actually have a competitive advantage in producing), higher prices, dead weight loss… It’s just a very bad idea.
Lots of details are in this video...
https://youtu.be/Gr-Ld7DnBZQ

2025-04-02 02:33:09

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sounds like rape.

2025-04-02 01:59:30

“Submission” is a cheat code for enjoying sex when sex is tied to shame. And for most women, sex is tied to shame.

2025-04-01 21:20:42

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Please RSVP at one of these links so we know how much beer to buy! 🍻
https://www.meetup.com/san-juan-bitdevs/events/307050137/
https://partiful.com/e/cj8f3GzMHCfCrybabwua

2025-04-01 21:20:07

Does San Juan Bitdevs benefit from my obsessive tenancies... or do I run BitDevs as a vehicle for my obsessive tendencies 🤔
Either way, join us for more opcode debate!!!
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2025-04-01 16:46:14

A personal theory on cults/religions/conspiracy theories...
“Not only is the universe stranger than we imagine, it is stranger than we can imagine.”
We are not our bodies, and our lives here are temporary, but we can’t actually comprehend the universe. I’m guessing that we do not need this human form to exist, there is “something more”, but that it is something outside of time and in so many dimensions that the human brain doesn't stand a chance at comprehending it. But still, on a deep level, we know this. We all have this deep vague knowing that this isn’t all there is. This is why that scene from the Matrix hit us all so hard.
"Let me tell you why you're here. You're here because you know something. What you know you can't explain — but you feel it. You've felt it your entire life — that there's something wrong with the world. You don't know what it is, but it's there. Like a splinter in your mind — driving you mad."
We are desperately seeking an answer that we can't actually have. That does drive us a bit crazy and leads us to accept very incomplete and flawed, and often dangerous, simple human answers. These answers come in the form of cults and religions.

2025-04-01 16:02:29

Do you value free speech?
Do you value due process?
Do you value a balance of power in gov structure?

2025-04-01 15:08:58

I would really like to belong to a cult or find religion... on some level I think that's true of all of us. Human's are wired like that. But I'm just far too much of an analytical bitch to ever actually buy into it. ...and so I'm just consistently lonely in that kinda way 🫤

2025-03-31 14:35:06

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2025-03-30 21:00:04

Human's have a real hard time processing and accepting the randomness of the world. Bad things happen, randomly, chaotically, and sometimes, for the sake of our sanity, we need for that not to be the case. We need something to blame.
This is the fuel behind a lot of conspiracy theories.

2025-03-28 14:52:42

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ya there are layers of wrong. But this is where the narrative is at.

2025-03-28 14:44:57

This is the state of the red pill narrative... women's rights are communist, down with the commies!
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2025-03-28 13:11:19

Being a terribly introspective person is exhausting, but it also makes you immune to insult.
There isn’t anything that you could say about me that I haven’t already spend two weeks considering and journaling about.

2025-03-28 12:56:16

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How do I get off this thread?

2025-03-27 18:07:08

We tend to think of the world as a hierarchy, but really it’s more of a mesh network.
When you are an employee you think you are not at the top of the hierarchy because you have a “boss”. Then you open your own small business and quickly realize that you now have a dozen “bosses” and have to spend a lot of time looking for more! Then you decide to raise a bunch of money for a new business, and find that every so often you have to explain yourself to a group of investors. Unless you want to go live alone in the woods, you’ll always be accountable to someone.
Those who are at the top of one hierarchy are at the bottom of another. When you zoom out you’ll see that the world is a mesh network.
Don’t try to avoid accountability, just be a good person and do work that you love 🫶
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2025-03-27 14:31:32

Be careful y’all. When you exaggerate or misuse words, or deny the obvious, it make your arguments seem less credible that they deserve to be.

2025-03-27 14:30:51

Decisions are what we are. We are not our bodies, we are not our circumstances, we are the decisions we make.
Trying to restrain someone’s decision making is attempting to cage them. If you don’t respect someone’s decision making, you don’t respect them.

2025-03-07 14:30:23

It’s so disheartening that I encounter so many people who publicly, proudly announce that they intentionally hold back the autonomy of the person they claim to care about the most in life.
When you truly love someone, you want freedom for them.

2025-03-07 14:26:49

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2025-03-06 22:23:16

I hear people say things like “a wife should be submissive”, “relationships can’t be 50/50, they have to be 51/49”, “the breadwinner/protector is the decision maker”, “the man is the leader", "women need love not respect" etc, etc. And then nearly in the same breath ask “why don’t women want to get married anymore?!?!”
Well ya know, when you are offering people servitude, and they have other options in life, you shouldn’t be surprised when your offer gets turned down. The human spirit wants to be free 🕊️

2025-03-06 14:54:34

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2025-03-03 23:17:10

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2025-02-25 16:32:40

Covenants!
I dug into covenant opcodes, and the answer was so clear to me. Why? Because I have a very clear idea of what I want Bitcoin to be. And this is always the root of the divide in these debates… differences in what we want Bitcoin to be.
I want Bitcoin to be better, global, money. I don’t want Bitcoin to do all the things. That’s how we wind up with hacks like the Bybit Ethereum debacle. I’m a huge fan of permissionless innovation. If you want to go make big bets on complex smart contracts, go for it! But please lets keep Bitcoin as simple, decentralized, permissionless money.
I am harshly opposed to any opcode that enables recursive covenants. If we enable this a week later we will see the beginning of the splitting of the Bitcoin ecosystem into gov approved coins and dirty bitcoins. We will be opening up our permissionless money to be turned into permissioned money by any entity who can coerce lager Bitcoin businesses. And if you don’t think your gov will do that, well what’s your least fav gov, political party, or mega corp? What might they do?
Bitcoin decentralizes power. Those in power seek more power.
If you disagree with me, please tell me why. But first, tell me what you think Bitcoin *should* be.

2025-02-25 15:47:21

We have a big issue in our culture where we can’t seem to imagine an egalitarian interaction.
I tell people that my husband is not my leader and they then assume that means that I’m controlling him. I tell people that I’m not into being controlled in bed and they then assume that means I’m some sort of dominatrix. I tell people that I am not above others on some hierarchy and they then assume that I am unsuccessful.
Such a shame that we can’t envision cooperative, voluntary, peaceful interactions with others.

2025-02-24 00:26:55

Really, is there a prettier place than Viejo San Juan?
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2025-02-14 17:23:05

What's the best book you've read on communication skills?

2025-02-13 14:20:09

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Do you chose to trust her and rely on her? I chose to trust and rely on my husband, but I would consider that to be different from "need".

2025-02-12 23:00:29

You don't want to have a partner that needs you, that is a burden. You want to have a partner that could get up and walk out at any moment, but who chooses to stay with you. That is quite a compliment!

2025-02-11 16:16:47

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what would you recommend? I'd like a browser client.

2025-02-11 16:05:13

No matter what I do Twitter insists on showing me Elon's Tweets.
No matter what I do Primal insists on showing me Odell's posts.

2025-02-10 18:21:06

This is much more harsh and vulgar language than I would use, but ya, I too am grossed out by what I've been seeing. I’m really shocked at how quickly so many cypherpunks/libertarians/anarchists sold out and started worshiping authority.
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2025-02-08 00:09:40

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ya it's broken right now, but thanks.

2025-02-07 23:18:16

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2025-02-07 23:17:57

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2025-02-06 23:12:33

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Are you an adult or in middle school?

2025-02-05 00:45:00

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2025-02-04 19:38:14

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Agreed. The writing wasn't my style, but the material was excellent.

2025-02-04 15:49:32

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2025-01-30 21:00:25

I argued with a pharmacist in Spanish today... I lost, but I lost in Spanish!

2025-01-29 14:14:30

Agency is core to the resolution of mental health issues. The closer you get to yourself, the more whole and healthy you are.
This is why ideologies and practices the remove agency are damaging. Cults, some religious practices, fascism, large scale communism, misogynistic concepts of ‘dominance’, etc.
Practices that remove people from themselves are detrimental to a person on a deep level.

2025-01-28 15:26:52

When I was first diagnosed with Hashimotos back in 2014 my Thyroid antibodies were over 800. After a year of strictly following the Autoimmune Protocol Diet I got those antibodies down to ~100.
The last time I had them checked was mid 2020 when stress levels were pretty high and they were back up to over 300.
I'm going to go get them tested again in a few weeks.... what can I do to see how low I can get them?!?! I'm already a fitness nut, so the only things I can think to do to try to get them low is increase my sleep quality and to not miss any of my daily meditations.
Ideas?

2025-01-25 15:25:04

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I don't think so. This narrative encourages having a very simplistic un-nuanced view of the world. In reality the world is very fucking complex.

2025-01-25 02:50:24

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Yup, it's a thing... that follows me around rooms.

2025-01-24 20:21:40

I don’t often call out the extreme misandrist “feminists” of the world. That isn’t because I support them, I certainly don’t, it just because at this time and place in my life I’m rarely ever around them. The man haters don’t follow me around rooms to tell me exactly why men suck, but the red pill crew do follow me around rooms to tell me why women suck. Good times.
It is important to call out the ugly when you see it, but also to be careful about how you do it. Some of these hate peddlers are very deserving of some harsh language… Tate… the ladies of The View, etc. But they won’t see your words, who will see your words are people who aren’t pushing hate for personal gain but just people who are struggling.
A lot of men who consume red pill content are just confused young men scared about how to navigate a changing world. Most of the women consuming extremist feminists material are survivors of violent sexual assault. Putting these people down or mocking them won’t improve things.
It’s always a good idea to call out horrendous ideas when you see them. But if you mock people, or whole categories of people (men and women) instead of ideas, you are just throwing fuel on a dumpster fire.

2025-01-24 14:53:52

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Things can and do change. I try to encourage things to change is a healthy direction.

2025-01-24 14:34:28

Did you know that I used to be quite the right winger? I once voted for Bush. ...One time I gave a speech supporting gender stereotypes 😬
I got indoctrinated in right wing rhetoric for a variety of reasons, but in large part as a reaction to the intensity of the left wing rhetoric at the University that I was attending. I lost the faith after the 2010 mid terms when “my team” had won and got some fiscal reforms, they came out and declared victory! I was elated ...then I crunched the numbers and realized that these sweeping changes were in fact barely any change at all. I was duped by my own team.
In Chicago ~2015-2018 I worked in some intensely left wing offices. The open hatred for white men specifically that I encountered there was wild. If I hadn’t already left the political circus, that environment would have made me a right wing extremist.
These past few years, being bombarded by the red pill mania, and all the encouragement of “dunking” on the “libtards”, etc, again if I hadn’t already left this circus… or studied economics 😆, I would be busy becoming a left wing radical.
Both the lefties and the righties justify their hatred. They use different terms, but the sentiment is always the same. ‘They deserve it’. ‘They had it coming’. Etc. Lately it’s been the righties claiming that mockery is a good and effective tool for change. It is not. This behavior always leads to blow back, usually in the form of radicalizing those on the opposing team.
The only way to improve this madness isn’t for your team to win. The only way to improve this situation is to get up and leave and circus, and to encourage as many as you can to do the same. If humanity doesn’t learn how to leave the political circus we will be caught in a perpetual cycle of alternating flavors of hatred.

2025-01-23 14:09:37

I do care about Elon’s hand gestures as I keep an eye on the common sentiment in the world around me so that I know when a place has become dangerous and I need to leave it. (...perhaps a Jewish trait 🤷🏻‍♀️😕)
But what really fascinates me here, and keeps me posting about it, is watching how human tribalism and our tendencies to be swept up in the madness of crowds impacts our ability to see and interpret the world around us.
Watching the changing tides of sentiment, the changing “collective unconscious”, is both terrifying and absolutely mesmerizing.
...also the memes are hilarious!

2025-01-22 21:04:15

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2025-01-22 18:08:40

Why we need more decentralized tech.
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2025-01-21 16:23:28

When I saw the 'Elon does nazi salute' headline and photo yesterday I was like, nah, seen this one before. It's easy to catch someone in a strange moment in a still photo and spin it. So like any intellectually honest person I went to go watch the video before commenting. And ya... could you do a more obvious nazi salute? I don't think I could if I tried.
Now, was it intentional? You can never know what is in someone else's mind and heart. But, if you have been living in this world with an internet connection for more than a decade, you know, you don’t say the n word and you don’t do the nazi salute. It’s common sense. Even for those with a touch of autism.
So, either Elon is a closet nazi sympathizer, or an overgrown child in desperate need of attention, or he's so out of touch with reality, and/or high on drugs, that the man really needs some help. Any way you look at it... it's ugly.

2025-01-21 15:17:20

🤣 🤣
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2025-01-20 17:25:19

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2025-01-18 16:55:55

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2025-01-17 15:44:40

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Well, your values are apparently very different from mine.
If someone is not leading their own life, a tragedy has occurred.

2025-01-15 17:16:30

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Ya, and you can't see women as leaders.

2025-01-15 15:37:00

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We all should be leading ourselves.

2025-01-15 14:19:29

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Human progress depends on human cooperation.
https://freemansperspective.com/i-like-jordan-peterson-but-hes-wrong/

2025-01-15 13:48:23

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Right this is the argument that I'm supposed to submit, just to a decent guy.
Never going to happen. Submission is death to your soul. It's not a thing that any decent human would wish for their loved ones.

2025-01-15 12:43:58

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It's so weird to see my "anarchist" and "libertarian" friends become wannabe tyrants. Makes you wonder if they ever really had those values or if they were just mad that they weren't the ones in power and were waiting for their turn.

2025-01-15 01:15:07

This red pill trend has been rough. It’s gotten to the point where it’s happened so many times in the past few years that I’m finding it difficult to let my guard down around men. I just keep waiting for them to launch into a lecture about how feeble my mind is and why I need to obey them.
It’s a very uneasy feeling chatting with someone while I’m just thinking “go on already, say the ugly thing so we can get this over with.” Sigh.

2025-01-11 16:25:06

I heard an interesting thing the other day. We are generally scared of meeting aliens as we imagine that they will take over, or kill us, or enslave us, etc. But why? Perhaps we envision that because throughout human history quite often when one civilization met another, the civilization with the more advanced technology took over, and killed, and enslaved. Essentially we are projecting our behavior onto aliens. Maybe.
And then I saw that theory taken further. There are some men in the world that seriously resist women having any real power. They see that as the collapse of civilization, it really freaks them out. Perhaps they are projecting? Perhaps they are assuming that if women are “in power” they will treat men in the same way that women were treated in recent history. They fear that then men will have to be second class citizens treated like property.
What do you think?

2025-01-09 17:56:57

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What is love?
and what is the difference between romantic and non-romantic love?

2025-01-09 17:55:19

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and what is that?

2025-01-09 17:50:35

When I was maybe 10 I was in the car with two adult women. A love song came on the radio. I asked questions about it and was told “you’ll understand when you are older… you’re too young to be in love.”
And so I waited, many years, to experience and understand the mythical love.
When I would have romantic connections with men I would ask myself, “is this love?” …”is THIS love??”
I experienced what others would call being “in love”, that wild attachment and infatuation, even addiction to another. But not one of those experiences were healthy. Looking back I can see those were insecurity fueled unhealthy attachments.
We tend to “fall in love” with people who we perceive as having what we want, or of being able to save us, or people who match our old wounds.
Often we “marry our unfinished business.” We “fall in love” with people who match our old wounds as we subconsciously try to fix the old wound with a new person who will play out that story line with us.
We are blind to what’s really going on, and we refuse to look at it by simply calling it “love”. And in our mass delusion, no one questions it.

2025-01-09 17:10:29

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If this is what works for you, cool. But making important life decisions based off social media peer pressure is a rather dangerous thing to do. And please don't glamorize that.

2025-01-04 22:57:16

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...and you say "chill out" as if that were simple. If it were the field of psychology wouldn't exist.

2025-01-04 22:38:06

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you don't think inflammation plays a role?

2025-01-04 21:32:49

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https://www.amazon.com/Inflamed-Mind-Radical-Approach-Depression-ebook/dp/B07G133P1F/ref=sr_1_1

2025-01-04 21:31:20

I am utterly convinced that a leading cause of depression is inflammation.
Now there are books about this, I’ll drop some links in the comments, but also, I’ll tell you a story. This is a thing that has happened to me a few times, but this is the most recent and clear.
Wednesday evening, I’m starting to feel a bit of a sore throat coming on. I drink some water and try to get some sleep. At about 2am I wake up hot and with body aches, but I was woken up because I was having racing very dark thoughts. I woke up because I was suddenly in a depressive episode! Now this isn’t my first rodeo, so I knew what was happening and I also knew it was caused by the inflammation raging in my body. At first I tried some meditation and some breathing exercises. But it didn’t make a dent, the thoughts raced. You know the ones, “you’re a horrible person”, “nothing will work out”, “your life won’t be anything but suffering”, on and on.
When my initial strategies failed I woke my husband up and told him what was going on and asked him to help. He went and got me some Ibuprofen, I took it, had some more water, waiting a bit. Things calmed down. I went back to sleep. I woke up Thursday morning still sick, but without the racing thoughts.
Do any of you experience this at the start of an illness?

2024-12-30 23:09:46

I did it! It only took 2 days of obsession, but I reached a DuoLingo Spanish score of 60. That corresponds with the CEFR level of B1, which means I'm kinda conversational... old news as I've been busy having lots of conversations for a while now 😝 But it's nice that it's DuoLingo official 🙌
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2024-12-29 16:23:31

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2024-12-29 16:14:33

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2024-12-28 00:28:01

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I theorize that this stuff is very subculture dependent. So I'll note that the above example took place in Chicago in the 90's.

2024-12-28 00:14:40

Genuine question, why are there so many dudes in the world who think of themselves as “protectors”, and yet I’ve never been “protected” while being harassed in public?
Now most creeps will try to get you alone somewhere, and generally all of them will leave you alone while you are clearly with another dude, but there are a lot of creeps who will harass you in broad day light on a busy street.
Here is an example: I was ~12 on the train with my little sister. We sat down next to each other and the dude across from us was a big guy in his 30’s, drunk. He sees us, stairs, pulls his pants down and starts masturbating. This train car was not empty. About 40% of the seats were taken. All sorts of people on that train car, women and men, just sat there and ignored it while this guy masturbates in front of two not even teenage girls.
Where are the protectors?

2024-12-28 00:12:57

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lol

2024-12-27 23:29:23

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I would agree that sports is a great outlet for our aggressive instincts.

2024-12-27 22:37:10

Sigh, I’m 41 and still “the wall” remains an elusive myth.
I’ve spent the past 3 days strolling around Chicago as we are in town for the holidays. 3 days and not one cat call… and then I dared to think it, maybe, maybe it’s finally happened. Perhaps I’ve hit “the wall” and the creeps are no longer interested in me. Maybe! 🤞🤞
Not 5 mins later and a dude starts walking next to me rather erratically. In front of me, then behind me… maybe he’s just drunk? But nope. Then he starts walking close behind me commenting on how “sexy” I am.
I’ve just had it with this shit. I turned around, took my headphones out, clutch my pepper spray, and gave him a lecture about how very uncool that is of him. He actually took it pretty well.
The oh so “sexy” outfit that I’m wearing is pajama pants, gym shoes, and a full length black wool coat. Hot shit.

2024-12-27 20:31:16

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Have you studied religion, or philosophy, or psychology? If you dig into any of these, they all point to comparison being the bringer of misery. And, unfortunately, given the state of most of the world in the past few thousand years, nearly all of that work was done by men(as in males).

2024-12-27 20:27:07

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Are you a religious or spiritual person at all?
I don't think we can deny that there are animalist aspects to humans. I have a friend that likes to joke that humans are what you get when a an angle and a chimp have a baby.
Humans have the ugly zerosum primate instincts, but we also have more enlightened more cooperative instincts too. So the question is... where do we want to go from here? Which of our sets of instincts do we want to lean into?

2024-12-27 20:21:47

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Humans are not chimps, and human progress comes from cooperation, not from domination.
Here is a lovely article on the topic, https://freemansperspective.com/i-like-jordan-peterson-but-hes-wrong/
"The dominance strategies of animals generate animal results.
The cooperative strategies of humans generate human and humane results."
Where do you want humanity to go from here?

2024-12-27 20:19:50

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It's debatable if hierarchy is good for those at the top with primates, it can be very stressful to maintain that status. And certainly hierarchy is very bad for those at the bottom.
Also, humans are not chimpanzees... thankfully, and even more so, even Baboons are not doomed to hierarchy. here is an interesting case study.
https://bobsutton.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/11/the-baboon-troop-that-mellowed-out-after-the-alpha-males-died-the-sapolsky-and-share-study.html

2024-12-27 17:23:14

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So the idea here is that comparison is good for men... as in males specifically?
Please give me some evidence here.

2024-12-27 16:36:53

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What might be some examples?

2024-12-27 16:17:22

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...you think there is healthy comparison?

2024-12-27 16:09:14

American culture is so very, very comparative. There is a constant “who is above who?” that is pervasive in the American subconscious.
For most of my life I was consumed by it. Now I see it, but it will probably take another few years to properly work it out of my head.
Comparison is the path to misery. True confidence, real peace, requires an absence of comparison.

2024-12-25 22:59:42

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The top of one hierarchy is the bottom of another. https://m.primal.net/NGem.png