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2024-09-16 06:20:12

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Communication is an undervalued and undertaught skill! I think using simplified models can help understand ourselves and others to better influence others, reach our goals and to have a fulfilling life.

2024-09-06 21:09:50

#discussion #communication #topic1
Four sides model
Also known as communication square or four-ears model
According to this model every message has four facets though not the same emphasis might be put on each. The four sides of the message are
- fact,
- self-disclosure,
- social relationship between sender and receiver,
- wish or want.
- The "Factual Level" contains statements which are matter of fact like data and facts.
- In the "self-revealing" or "self-disclosure" the speaker - deliberately or unintentionally - reveals something about him or herself, their motives, values, emotions etc.
- In the "relationship-layer" the speaker expresses, how the sender gets along with the receiver and what they think of each other.
- The "wish or want" contains the plea or desire, the advice, instruction and possibly the effects which the speaker is seeking.
Example:
In a relationship, one side says to the other:
"It is cold."
Speaker:
- Factual: the temperature is low.
- Self revealing: I am cold.
- Relationship: You should know I am a "cold-type".
- Wish or want: Turn up the heater.
Listener:
- Factual: the temperature is low.
- Self revealing: He/she is cold.
- Relationship: I shall know that he/she is a cold type.
- Wish or want: Never let the temperature to be too low.
Of course, every layers can be misunderstood on their own. But if the 2 sides puts the emphasis on different layers, it can create a big misunderstanding.
Understanding this model, can help us identify possible misunderstandings, or even reason for anger. Also can help understanding ourselves, why we get angry, upset, etc on a simple factual message.

2024-09-06 13:26:21

#discussion #communication #introduction
Communication shall be one of the most basic skills anyone has. It is a hard skill though.
You will need communication in your work, in your family, in your relationships, while you are shopping, while you want to solve a problem, etc.
While it could be tempting to accept how you communicate, as you might survived until now, and nothing bad happened. But this does not mean your current level of communication will be enough in the future. Or you might noticed, that some of your communications gone wrong, or you saw some people's communication gone wrong.
By improving your communication, you will be able to:
- reach conclusions easier
- understand other people better
- understand other people's intentions
- understand why some things trigger you, or trigger others
- understand the power games of communication
- use certain communication techniques for your advantage
etc
What would you like to learn by improving your communication?

2024-09-06 13:26:21