leftout on Nostr: I remember the time when the same “concerns” existed for gay men in washrooms. We ...

I remember the time when the same “concerns” existed for gay men in washrooms. We don’t hear about that anymore because society matured and shifted to acceptance of gay men and now understands this wasn’t actually a widespread problem. You can find isolated incidents to this day (like for anything), but this is rare, not common. I don’t see trans women as predators at rates higher than gay men or the general population.

An example of an all gender washroom I consider a good solution doesn’t even have a door on the washing up area. In that area, you have less warning for when when someone will walk in and less sound isolation. Each toilet stall is fully closed, not the less private stall we’re used to traditionally. This individual space is fully private and slow for people to peer at you from above or below. I am personally more comfortable in that arrangement and every single person I know who has experienced this type of washroom also says they are more comfortable in them. I don’t easily accept a comment implying they are less safe without some stats clearly showing otherwise.

One of the other benefits of this type of washroom is it allows for mothers and their sons and fathers with their daughters to be together. You don’t need to send a child in unprotected into a space you consider may have them be vulnerable.

I still believe this is how we should reshape this type of public space going forward. And I’m already seeing movement towards this, because as I’ve mentioned, I’ve experienced them.