Tattie

Edinburgh-based, carbohydrate-laden, binary evading spud. Trans liberation, autistic pride. :heart_nonbinary: :flag_genderfluid: :heart_transgender: 🥔 :heart_lesbian: 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 :autism:

I write things on Medium! Click #TattieWrites for a list of my articles on being trans and other thoughts.

#nonbinary #trans #woman #genderfluid #femby #sapphic #lesbian #ActuallyAutistic #ptsd #Scotland #Edinburgh

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Age: early forties
Pronouns: they/she
Location: Edinburgh, Scotland

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2024-11-02 14:52:11

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#TrumpIsACunt indeed!

2024-10-05 14:21:29

#gardening advice sought: I planted a bunch of onion seeds in the spring, and they sprouted. Now it's autumn and we're getting into frost risk time. But the bulbs are still tiny, not even cocktail onion sized. Do I harvest them anyway? Leave them in the pot?

2024-09-23 09:24:29

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Another day, another bit less swollen.
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2024-09-22 20:45:11

Back in the 'burgh. Have a photie.
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2024-09-03 13:45:12

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best toy will *always* be a bit of scrunched up paper and a bit of string

2024-08-18 10:29:37

There's a phenomenon that causes transmasc and transfem discourse to sometimes rub up against each other, and that's something I'd like to label *false symmetry*. This is basically the premise that since we're going in "opposite gender directions" our experiences must somehow be opposite.
There's a popular oversimplification I see going round a lot that says that due to societal misogyny, feminine is seen as the worst thing a boy can be, whereas masculine traits in girls are lauded. Too many transfems see this and assume therefore that transmasc childhoods are so much easier than theirs, with every departure from femininity laughed off with a gentle "oh she's such a *tomboy*".
No. Listen to actual transmasc experiences.
I've also seen transmasc folks talk about being silenced, talked over, threatened for being a "girl", as if it were a completely alien experience to transfems. Again, no. My friends, that was something I very much experienced as well.
It shouldn't be that big a leap to understand that childhood is pretty shit for *any* trans person. But oh! The draw of symmetry.
Similarly, our presents, our futures. Transfems feel keenly how misogyny crystallises against us as we transition. We see how we are barged past and patronised and stared, a far more immediate and automatic misogyny than we're accustomed to. And we sometimes presume that our transmasc friends are "transitioning into privilege", gaining the immediate respect that we're losing.
And, like, maybe there's *some* experiences that correlate to that expectation? But I see many more transmascs transitioning to visibly queer, soft-spoken guys that *aren't* rewarded with freely-given masculine respect.
The term that leads to the stickiest arguments is that of "female socialisation", which many transmascs vibe with as a description of how they were (and continue to be) policed. But! So many transfems bristle at this because of the fear of being branded "male-socialised" by symmetry, which let's be clear is a term which TERFs have absolutely claimed as their own by now, as a weapon to silence us.
I reject the false symmetry. I accept that many of my transmasc friends feel they were female socialised. I personally feel I was socialised as a weird genderless creature that was only celebrated for its academic achievements and told to shut up in any other sphere of life. 🤷‍♀️
Because gender *isn't* symmetrical, actually, and privileges are only awarded to a subset of men who can actually perform masculinity "right". And we are all on strange and complicated journeys where we're perceived as female, male, neither or both, and policed in contradictory and ever-shifting ways. In that way our experiences are far more similar than we are opposite.

2024-08-02 12:21:52

The political left's definition of a woman is "whoever decides they are one", and the right derides us for it.
But with the Olympic boxing "controversy", they've let slip their own definition: a woman is whoever *they* decide is one. And no pesky facts about what anatomy you have, or what it says on your birth certificate, is going to stop them coming for you if they decide you're on the wrong side of that line.
They are fascists, and they must be stopped.

2024-07-09 13:31:04

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Update: having my butt drilled by a professional. 👍

2024-07-08 13:57:43

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I contacted a professional to help me plumb it in. He asked for a picture, and upon receipt volunteered "nice butt!"
Yes I think I have gone to the right person here.

2024-07-08 13:04:24

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Step 1: screw this into your butt. That's about as far as I can get for now.
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2024-07-08 12:40:23

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The instructions on how to prepare my butt are all in German. 😨

2024-07-08 12:29:07

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Behold my large, attractive butt!
#gardening #HomeImprovement
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2024-07-08 12:17:30

Oooh, butt developments!

2024-06-21 13:52:58

Anyone in #edinburgh and Lothians got any recommendations for veg box delivery companies? Just cancelled with East Coast Organics after they gave me a box with no green veg except for one sad lettuce. 😛

2024-06-10 15:09:31

I love my transfem sisters, but it's a bit of a gut punch when I see someone cheerily say something like "oh, this won't be a problem when you start to pass".
Not all of us get to go down that road even if we want to. Some of us will stay obviously trans forever.
And, you know, I'm ok with it. I don't pass for cis but I'm increasingly treated as a woman, and that's a joyous and wonderful thing. Most importantly I *like* myself now; I look like myself and *feel* like myself. It's as if I've finally stepped into real life.
Maybe I'll start to pass after FFS. Probably not tho. And even if I do, surgery is a privilege few are afforded.
Would I *want* to pass? Definitely sometimes, at least. It'd be cool to not feel quite so much under scrutiny all the time.
It is what it is. I am what I am. I'm happy for those that pass, but please don't erase me and those like me from trans experience!

2024-05-27 00:03:41

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reversing the polarity to bring your senses into or out of phase? Years of Star Trek TNG has prepared me for exactly this! *Cracks knuckles*
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2024-05-26 22:24:05

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maybe light actually travels at the speed of radio tho
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2024-05-26 22:24:05

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maybe light actually travels at the speed of radio tho
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2024-04-08 13:34:58

Zeph has been sitting in the exact same position with the exact same expression for minutes now.
Either there are birbs outside the window, or his brain needs rebooting.
#CatsOfMastodon
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