Valerie Mars

Beginner’s mind, poet’s heart. Eyes to the stars. Visual artist & musician. Internet mom. she/her  #scifi #art #music - - - Privacy Flags: #NoArchive #NoIndex #NoSearch #NoBot

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2023-09-26 14:46:08

Sending love and light to @npub1wcv…gpxa as she goes in for the ultimate upgrade today. Good luck, sister! 💜💜💜

2023-09-20 16:40:55

*** THIS FRIDAY NIGHT!!! ***
Wake up, Neo. It’s almost time!
Be sure to join @npub1zc4…mc2z, @npub1gg8…439g and I for a very special MATRIX WATCH PARTY!
This free event begins Friday night Sept 22 at 6p/8c/9e.
Tilly will be doing LIVE Q&A on Discord during the event, discussing the #trans allegories of The Matrix films.
There’s already a vibrant community forming around the event on our Discord — don’t miss out!
Invite & info here —> discord.gg/kDaUnm3Ns
#MatrixWatchParty
https://media.mas.to/masto-public/media_attachments/files/111/098/453/017/426/057/original/7db34c69a9ff7061.png

2023-09-15 17:51:52

Hi, Masto! ‘Member me? 👉👈🥺
I’ve got a hormone levels question. I’m on injectable E (weekly subQ) and my mid-week level is 572 pg/mL. (Endo insists on testing midweek 🤷‍♀️)
Endo says this is too high/risky, wants to lower dose. I say “bah! I feel great and like what’s happening!” I had upped my dose slightly to stop feeling like unaliving myself and it worked.
Can anyone back me up? @npub1n5d…2090 @npub1dxg…lv39 perhaps?
Thanks in advance! 💖
#trans #transfemme #hrt

2023-09-09 01:23:56

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@npub19ys…64gr
Please do! The more the merrier!
@npub1gg8…439g @npub1zc4…mc2z

2023-09-08 21:40:02

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@npub1zc4…mc2z @npub1gg8…439g It’s gonna be great! I’m so looking forward to it!

2023-09-08 21:24:46

So, umm…
*** SPECIAL EVENT NOTICE ***
@npub1gg8…439g and I have teamed up with the amazing @npub1zc4…mc2z to host a WATCH PARTY of the first Matrix film to celebrate the release of Tilly’s book “BEGIN TRANSMISSION: The trans allegories of The Matrix”!
Join us for this free event Friday night Sept 22 at 6p/8c/9e as we watch Neo, Trinity & Morpheus take down the cis binary.
Tilly will be doing a LIVE Q&A during the film! Don’t miss it!
Invite & info here —> https://discord.gg/kDaUnm3Ns
#trans
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2023-08-31 16:32:17

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@npub1gg8…439g Well, I had to mark the occasion properly 😉💖

2023-08-31 15:53:14

Two years ago today I took the blue pill (and a little white pill) and began my stroll down the pink brick road of medical transition.
I started feeling better almost immediately. I’m certain transition saved my life.
Today I’m off the little white pills, and traded the blue ones for weekly jabs. I’m out socially, professionally, legally, and 1 1/2 years into living full time as my true self. Life is better than I ever thought it could be. 💖
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Would reccomend.
#trans #TransJoy

2023-08-10 01:57:43

Y’all I think I need to take a little break from here for a while. I kinda feel like a hypocrite right now, and that’s not helping anyone.

2023-08-10 00:22:38

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@npub13jc…9e66 Truth. All of that. 💖

2023-08-09 23:36:54

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@npub1fek…02sz It definitely is, but… anyway. I wish you the best.

2023-08-09 23:33:45

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@npub1gg8…439g Fact.

2023-08-09 23:33:09

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@npub1fek…02sz Give it time, hon. Transition is hard.

2023-08-09 23:28:19

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@npub1fek…02sz I once thought that, too.

2023-08-09 23:24:37

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@npub1ghf…fz9q I’ve been working on that part (mental) for 2 1/2 years already.

2023-08-09 23:18:04

Sometimes I worry that transition isn’t going to be enough.

2023-08-09 22:40:08

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@npub1jcr…2z2h It’s such a tightrope act, isn’t it? May you reach the far ledge soon.

2023-08-09 22:28:29

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@npub1jcr…2z2h Yeah… I believe there’s an identity option in preferences where you can change it through.

2023-08-09 22:20:13

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@npub1s5p…6qjf I’m a big fan of cherry and lime! 😊💖

2023-08-09 22:07:14

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@npub1s5p…6qjf Voting absolutely matters. But I also believe in holding who we elect accountable. Do we agree on that?

2023-08-09 21:57:15

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@npub1s5p…6qjf Nor did I suggest it was. That’s quite a leap you took.

2023-08-09 21:10:23

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@npub1s5p…6qjf The question then becomes “what must we do to get them off their privileged asses and actually help?”

2023-08-09 19:26:36

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@npub1gg8…439g Living near the gulf coast as I do, I’m no stranger to the effects of wind. Stay safe, lil sister!! 💖

2023-08-09 19:09:18

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@npub1gg8…439g Oh no! I had no idea! Boosting…

2023-08-09 19:07:38

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@npub1s5p…6qjf Well, until they actually do something to stop those things, it doesn’t matter what they’re not doing.
As MLK said in his letter from a Birmingham jail, those who stand by are just as bad, maybe worse.

2023-08-09 19:05:04

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@npub1ccn…ly9q @npub1hzf…8nrj Shhhhh, Val.. I mean, Terra! We can’t let the world know!!!

2023-08-09 18:07:45

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@npub1s5p…6qjf That’s often the choice we’re given.

2023-08-09 16:09:55

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Tried to get up, pulled back the covers to do my morning stretches and immediately started crying. Today just feels like too much.

2023-08-09 16:07:45

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@npub1hzf…8nrj @npub1ccn…ly9q Aww… and lol
And it was a wolf whistle, not a catcall, sis… 😉

2023-08-09 15:43:16

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It’s nearly 11 and I’m still trying to find the motivation to get out of bed. 😞

2023-08-09 14:25:56

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@npub1hyg…mem5 Good morning, Alex! 💖

2023-08-09 14:24:40

Woke up this mornin’,
Blues on my mind…
(harmonica solo)

2023-08-09 06:09:22

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@npub1gg8…439g “I got us a…. threesome…”
“Wow…” “Wow…”
“…yeah.” ☹️

2023-08-09 05:59:01

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@npub1gg8…439g https://youtu.be/QpeoW2mvwp4

2023-08-09 05:43:54

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@npub1w4m…sa57 🫂

2023-08-09 05:12:03

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@npub1kzd…eseq A girl can do anything she wants.

2023-08-09 05:10:49

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@npub1gg8…439g Prolly the same person who convinced dudes to buy those ridiculous Pandora charm bracelets for their wives 🤦‍♀️

2023-08-08 23:09:53

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@npub18lj…80hq I hated myself for most of my life, but I always loved “the idea of” my birthday because it was just for me.
Now I love myself and my life, and I celebrate the entire month long!

2023-08-08 21:29:51

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@npub1kfh…39vc 🫂💖

2023-08-08 19:28:33

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@npub1hyg…mem5 This is a no judgement zone… (raises eyebrow in judgement)

2023-08-08 19:16:04

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@npub1hyg…mem5 Crocs were virtually unknown until the production designer for the movie Idiocracy went looking for the dumbest looking shoes people in the future would wear, and that’s what they used!
This unfortunately gave Crocs the influx of cash they needed to grow their market, um… footprint. 🤦‍♀️

2023-08-08 19:06:06

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@npub1hyg…mem5 Humor is always appreciated, Alex.
Uggs are super cute. Crocs on the other hand…

2023-08-08 19:00:29

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@npub1s8r…j3l8 Yes, I bitch about the US system, but the NHS is truly an exercise in bureaucratic cruelty. I thank my stars and garters every day that I didn’t move there a few years ago when I had the chance. Lovely country, but fundamentally fucked systems.

2023-08-08 18:57:05

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@npub1gg8…439g Ya, this prolly needs to happen.

2023-08-08 18:42:37

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Well, it looks like I may have finally succeeded in updating my health insurance and medical records with my name and gender. Phew!

2023-08-08 18:39:20

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@npub1gg8…439g Well if my lead helps you or others avoid some of the spinning blades, it’s a bit more worth it. 💖

2023-08-08 18:11:21

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@npub1ccn…ly9q I definitely find Option A better and easier, because I love love, and being a disrespectful asshole is exhausting to everyone.

2023-08-08 18:07:47

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@npub1ccn…ly9q I’m a gotdamned overachiever! Bippity-boppity-bitch! ⚡️

2023-08-08 17:59:29

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@npub15n8…yq8a Should always be followed by an exclamation point! 😉

2023-08-08 17:29:10

Bitches, I’m tired.
I’m tired of jumping through hoops like some fucking show dog just to be myself.
The hoops of updating my name & gender everywhere which is like running thru a gauntlet of knives.
The hoops of healthcare.
The hoops of family approval.
The hoops of women’s fashion & beauty standards.
The hoops of my own psychology.
The hoops of relearning sex & sexuality.
The hoops of dealing with men.
The hoops of being a political target.
Give a girl a damn break.
#trans

2023-08-08 17:03:31

It’s raining kitters ‘n’ doggos over here!

2023-08-08 15:57:26

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@npub18g3…3s5v it’s a felony to vandalize mailboxes, fyi

2023-08-08 06:51:48

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@npub1gg8…439g That’s a much more acceptable percentage 😉

2023-08-08 05:58:12

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@npub1gg8…439g This blows my mind. I was a Zutons fan way back to their first album but I somehow missed this lil nugget and had no idea Mick & Amy’s song was theirs! Now I love it even more!

2023-08-08 05:55:55

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@npub1gg8…439g Love you back, sis! I’m lucky to call you friend. 💖

2023-08-07 23:47:52

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@npub19ys…64gr
That is excellent information, Daphne! I’m currently in a laborious holding pattern waiting for my birth state to return my update birth certificate before I can get my DL updated. Maybe I can use this to circumvent! Thanks!!
@npub1e7a…sq82

2023-08-07 23:08:57

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@npub1e7a…sq82 I’m in AL. It can be tough in our backwards states.
Name alone is a simple matter of a court petition. Social security will accept court order for name, and your word for gender.
It really depends what state you were born in how hard it is to get gender marker changed on state ID. Most want an amended birth certificate from birth county.
This page may help you get started. Best of luck! 😊
https://transequality.org/documents/state/georgia

2023-08-07 22:42:17

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@npub1ccn…ly9q Grade A Certified Bastard 😡

2023-08-07 19:37:06

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@npub1cz6…l5np THAT I could handle! Lol

2023-08-07 19:31:11

Carry on, my wayward bun
There’ll be yeast when you are done
Lay your weary bread to rest
Don’t you rye no more
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This has been a scene from Valerie’s Mental Breakdown. Stay turned for more hits from this messy miss.

2023-08-07 18:10:33

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@npub1hyg…mem5 Agreed!!!
My spouse is veggie, btw, if you ever wanna swap tips & recipes 😊

2023-08-07 17:44:23

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@npub1hyg…mem5 It requires regular heavy doses of denial. Tequila also works if available. Olé!

2023-08-07 17:37:31

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@npub1kzd…eseq 🫂🫂🫂

2023-08-07 17:36:50

Joyposting to keep from sadposting.
May resort to shitposting in interim.

2023-08-07 15:44:51

The angry young man to blissful old woman pipeline.
#trans #TransJoy

2023-08-07 14:56:35

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@npub1gjp…jgq2 Faaaaaaaaahk. 😳

2023-08-07 14:52:33

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@npub14d8…05dp I know what the sunk cost fallacy is, reply guy. How is it relevant to what I’m talking about?
Before you answer: It isn’t. 🙄

2023-08-07 14:18:59

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@npub14d8…05dp What are you even talking about?

2023-08-07 14:13:41

Just so ya know… you can be 2+ years into this thing and still find yourself wondering from time to time what your goals are, whether you’re achieving those goals, and whether it’s worth it.
And that’s okay. Doubt is a tool. It’s good to self-assess.
#trans

2023-08-07 13:51:34

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@npub1ccn…ly9q They’re fortunate to have an Oma like you to be not only a fierce protector, but a brilliant example. 🫂💖

2023-08-07 05:50:44

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@npub13n8…ftmj It’s just me joking about the ridiculous video 😉

2023-08-07 04:55:44

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@npub1mhr…geft It was also written by Jim Steinman, who wrote the Bat Out Of Hell album for Meat Loaf

2023-08-07 02:17:59

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@npub19qv…0tmd I think what I meant by robot mode was more just feeling treated like a tool instead of a person with a brain, but yes, as a trans person I’ve done my share of D&D (not the fun kind) as well…

2023-08-07 02:14:19

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@npub1gg8…439g I think I’ve seen that one!

2023-08-07 01:47:37

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@npub1g5y…4rxa Oh yeah. Been there.

2023-08-07 01:46:56

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@npub1gg8…439g That was hilarious! 🤣🤣🤣

2023-08-07 01:39:59

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@npub1gg8…439g A personality trait or symptom

2023-08-07 01:37:01

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@npub19qv…0tmd Oh, I can so relate to this, Jennifer! I also love to be helpful, and a project can be churning along fine until someone decides to dictate how I do my job to the point that I just have to divest all ownership of the task at hand and go into “robot mode” just to get through it, and all motivation is lost. It’s caused me to wall myself off from the creative client work I do so often that for a long time I lost all joy in it.

2023-08-07 01:25:16

Watching 80s videos for me is like taking a tour of adolescent gender envy. #trans #WantHerOrWantToBeHer

2023-08-07 00:34:33

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@npub1gg8…439g Ya, that’s a thing. Prolly worth re-testing in a few months, and maybe consider if X was true before you started HRT or not.

2023-08-07 00:31:50

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@npub1j7g…g3wt Feels. Hugs.

2023-08-07 00:31:20

Based on the video, “Total Eclipse of the Heart” is really about a schoolmistress who’s horny for her male students.
For shame, Ms. Tyler.
For. Shame.
https://youtu.be/lcOxhH8N3Bo

2023-08-07 00:17:44

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@npub1gg8…439g I was diagnosed as a preschooler but nothing was ever done about it. It’s only in the past few years I’ve truly come to understand how it impacts me.

2023-08-06 23:53:16

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@npub1gg8…439g I see what you did there

2023-08-06 23:32:07

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@npub1zxk…rfz4 Hi Barbie!

2023-08-06 23:31:44

My #ADHD peeps will relate.
TFW you’re performing a task that is already very stressful for you and your SO gripes hard at you about some aspect of how you’re doing it, so not only do you not get that feeling of completion & accomplishment when you’re done (not to mention the anticipated dopamine hit), you don’t get back any spoons, and burn extra spoons feeling shitty about the whole thing.
Yay.

2023-08-06 23:21:32

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@npub1ccn…ly9q And he’d so have it coming!!

2023-08-06 23:20:20

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@npub1gg8…439g Laura Jane better look over her shoulder!

2023-08-06 20:58:32

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@npub1gg8…439g
💖💖💖💖
👏👏👏👏

2023-08-06 14:08:21

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@npub1ccn…ly9q Ya look so great, babe! Love the confidence as well! 💖💖💖

2023-08-06 14:06:25

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@npub1h98…xu75 Yeoman Rand!

2023-08-06 14:01:50

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@npub1ccn…ly9q And all this lies in stark contrast to evangelicals, who use community as power in that they will let rotten people join, stay in and be endlessly “redeemed” just so their numbers continue to grow and their minions of bigots continue to “spread the gospel to every corner of the earth”.
For them community is ultimately about political power, which is how *they* wield power over others.

2023-08-06 08:13:18

I was supposed to go to sleep an hour ago but I’m very disobedient.

2023-08-06 08:00:20

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@npub1kzd…eseq Definitely amazing from where I sit. 😊💖

2023-08-06 07:55:03

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@npub1kzd…eseq **waves back at amazing Autumn**

2023-08-06 07:51:02

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@npub1gg8…439g Rest assured that I love you, my intrepid lil sister 💖💖💖

2023-08-06 07:08:43