Quenby / is on Nostr

Queer enby living in a red state hiding in my blanket fort, posting about my adventures.

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2024-09-14 17:55:37

Hello.
This happens to me a lot so I'm just putting out a PSA.
If you see someone using forearm crutches, you do not need to ask them anything about their health or disability.
Especially people need to stop asking if I have Polio.
Forearm crutches are used by people who need support walking.
They are not indicative of any specific condition.
Strangers do not need to cross the room to come ask about Polio.
It's weird.

2024-07-04 23:18:41

Hello
Hello
Hello
Is there anybody out there?

2024-07-04 23:18:41

Hello
Hello
Hello
Is there anybody out there?

2024-05-28 22:46:23

Regular reminder than contemporaneous notes ARE evidence and you should absolutely be writing down the awful shit your employer says, and when it happened, and how it affected you.
You cannot always control your circumstances but you can control your documentation of it.
Keep notes besties.

2024-05-15 20:17:15

Her: did you hear about Cai?
Me: I don't gossip.
Her: I'm not gossiping, I just know something.
Me: still sounds like none of my business

2024-05-02 22:27:06

Do me a favor.
Quit making fun of people (of any age but especially kids) who ask genuine questions.
I have to pull questions out of adults now because at some point someone made fun of them for being curious.
It's not embarrassing to learn, you shouldn't feel guilty for thinking of a question and asking an expert.
You should feel happy that you are still curious about the universe.
Make learning a positive experience? Please?

2024-05-01 20:28:32

Him: man or bear?
Me: what now?
Him: the meme, do you want to be trapped in the woods with a man or a bear?
Me: do I know the man?
Him: no it's just a random person
Me: bear
Him: why?
Me: feels safer
Him: because you think you could fight a bear?
Me: no, but I would be able to probably avoid it or at least predict it's actions
Him: if you can't avoid the bear
Me: can I avoid the man?
Him: no
Me: bear
Him: I don't think you understand the question
Me: explain it to me
Him: bears can kill you
Me: I have bad news about men.

2024-04-10 20:29:58

If you do #PixelArt and you sell tote bags with your art on it can you send me a link? I need a new tote bag and I want it to be #cute.
Would rather support individual artists than go to the mall. Help plz.

2024-03-18 20:25:06

Laundry is the worst chore.
It has multiple steps with a break between.
It's easy to get distracted.
I restarted the washer.
I set another timer.
I wish I had money to pay someone to do this for me. Just the putting in the dryer part.

2024-02-12 20:44:15

Regular reminder that fast news isn't good and good news isn't fast.
Developing situations are often fast changing and facts get distorted and misreported.
Stay vigilant. Share responsibly.

2023-07-03 02:55:55

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@npub1r4h…u0jf I'm so sorry. My communication is crud when I'm like this.

2023-07-03 02:17:43

Friendly reminder to charge up your noise cancelling headphones.
I forgot and people are already setting off explosions which is not ideal.
#PTSD

2023-07-01 09:08:19

I favorite a lot of posts. I do it because I want you to know I liked your post, unless it's a sad post and then I mean that I see you and hope you know you aren't alone, or if it's art it's because I felt something, or if it's about your hobby it's because I think it's cool, or sometimes it's because I like making the star turn yellow.

2023-06-30 00:34:06

Greetings.
https://media.cutie.city/media_attachments/files/110/630/345/300/179/534/original/110da2fdbacd924b.jpg

2023-06-28 22:34:28

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@npub1zgw…3tz0 @npub1094…2wum I really like this and it's how I use them too. Just giving a heads up for what to expect.

2023-06-28 16:01:40

Her: does everything you buy have to be cute?
Me: no, but wouldn't it be nice if that was an option? Like if everything came in a cute version?
Her: shouldn't you like grow up?
Me: I did. I decided to be an adult with a kitty cat backpack. It's called making an adult decision.

2023-06-26 21:16:08

Bad faith actors try to control conversations by derailing them.
They have a ton of tactics and this post isn't comprehensive.
Here are a few I've seen today on my afternoon break scrolling this feed.
- false dichotomy (narrowing the focus to 2 options even when they are not the only two options)
- straw men (arguing against something nobody said because it's easier than really engaging in actual discussion)
- changing the subject/whataboutism (if they can't engage on what you're talking about they will try to shortcut you to focus on another issue)
- equivocation (using ambiguity to make two or more disparate situations to seem comparable)
- context free takes (purposefully ignoring details that are important to understanding the situation, they will remove all context from a situation to reduce it to something they can argue against, to them nothing is racist, sexist, or wrong because if they remove enough facts from the situation they can spin it as "ok")
-making false claims (they lie, a lot, and they do it without shame or apology and will return to the lie over and over even after they have been shown it's not true)
hyperbolic nonsense (they are all or nothing, if you make a claim that a thing happened one time they will insist you said it ALWAYS happens every time and then argue that because it didn't happen in one instance it never did )
shifting goalposts (they will make a claim and when it is proven false, they will shift to another claim without admitting they were wrong on the first one, they will conflate your inability to refute a deluge of other claims (all bogus) with your inability to refute any of them and will continue to repeat all the false claims as if they were not refuted at all)
gish-galloping (when cornered they will begin to post links repeatedly even if they refute their own claims, even if they don't have ANYTHING to do with what you're talking about. 10-20 links per one comment of yours, just an avalanche of misinformation or information, hoping you will waste time actually clicking on them and they will claim victory)
refusal to answer direct questions (they will NEVER answer a direct question, they will either shift goal posts, change the subject, or ask you a question)
dismissal without reason (if they are unable to refute any of your points or prove their claim they will eventually resort to stating you believe the "narrative" you want to, and then begin in on character assassination by calling you things like "a shill" or "a libtard" or "a sheep")
My advice is to avoid engaging directly with these people at all. They are playing a game and people who are witnessing it are not equipped to pick up on it and tend to side with whoever seems most aggressive. It's not that you can't refute their claims, feel free, just ignore them when they start freaking out and doing all this.
If they start it on your page block them. They will throw a huge fit about censorship and free speech and echo chambers and safe spaces, but you can feel free to ignore that because you're not hurting someone by refusing to listen to hateful claptrap. You're just not.
They don't have anything useful to say anyway, they are only there to derail actual conversations by using the tactics listed above and as soon as they employ any it's best to shut it down if you can. It goes nowhere and it is actually not a useful conversation and will never be one.