npub1gmx4vz0z4waf3ff40j7vdy7stdn4c0gne6lkd0pwtae46lzph4mqajatcq (npub1gmx…atcq) npub1w02j6gx0e4regyal6jsdhgm5tfyfm9j6fgj9566advzk7axdzwtqswndth (npub1w02…ndth) my best friend didn’t speak to me for months after I asked her if her boyfriend’s heart emergency where he almost required surgery was really worth eating in restaurants. He’s the only living parent for his two teenagers, their mom died of cancer when they were little. He really shouldn’t be eating in restaurants when it means his kids could end up orphans.
I’m pretty sure we aren’t really friends anymore, but I’m OK with it. I don’t want to be friends with ableists, and after the day she got mad the school made her pick up her feverish child I realize she’s actually dangerous to my health. (and I kind of understood her problem, her kid has ODD so parenting is living hell for her, and she’s trying to work full-time, but the kid actually had strep throat. You’re not allowed to infect all the children in the classroom just because you have stuff to do.)
But the denial is staggering and they will get straight pissed off at you if you point out to them that they might be making a mistake.