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npub1fgle6lnth5pces3v5hayhvdsaqg7r842gxhg9fh5a7l66jm2qp3q0w4jl4 (npub1fgl…4jl4) the thing is that you can do bigoted things unintentionally. The first step, I had to learn, is to accept that while you may think of yourself as a good person who opposes bigotry, that doesn’t mean you can’t be bigoted yourself. The first step is to accept that you too grew up in a bigoted society, and as someone who does have a lot of privilege compared to most, so you certainly have bigoted thought and behavior patterns in some way, and you are less likely to recognize when more subtle kinds of bigotry are happening since you aren’t affected by many kinds yourself. I get having a hard time with criticism, I have ADHD myself and my rejection sensitivity did make it hard in the beginning, and it was easy to just dismiss that i could do anything wrong, which just worsens things. Being autistic you might know situations in which people unintentionally act in a way that are harmful or unfair to you (one example about my adhd i can think of is teachers expecting me to look like I’m paying attention the way neurotypicals do, and forbidding me from doing things that actually helped me pay attention, like drawing, looking out of the window of small, non-disruptive stims because they made me look like I’m not paying attention. There are probably similar examples from your life where people treated you in an unfair way like that unintentionally because of you being autistic). Of course the things that cause harm to people marginalized in other ways, the microaggressions, look different, but this is basically about learning to not be that person who hurts others out of ignorance. It’s a thing everyone has to learn, especially people who are privileged in a lot of ways, and it‘s not helpful to think about wether you’re a bad or a good person too much, and I know this is easier said than done. Ironically the first step towards getting better at anti-racism is accept the fact that there in some ways is racism in your thoughts or even behaviors (and the same could be said for sexism, transphobia, ect) so that you are able to recognize, examine, and counter it.

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