npub1hd2rzs04wqq4pqavyr9dnmczg80nzgwg0p73eu3y63ck3gf4ejwsz2zm0u (npub1hd2…zm0u) Fair enough.
AFAICT, a common reason people do this is that they're insecure and acting out. They feel that they should be improving themself, know that they could, but don't bother.
Then somebody close to them starts putting in the work, then keeps on putting in the work, and now they feel even worse about themself. "You're showing me up. Think you're better than me, don't you?"
Rather than use that as a spur to get off their own ass and do what's necessary to get where they want to go, they try to resolve the conflict by making the external source of discomfort go away - by stopping the other person from improving themself.
Now I think about it, when I studied law a very long time ago, we went over a case where this was explicitly the motivation. Short version: old driver retired, new driver consistently outperformed him, and the other drivers tried to bully him into not making their old mate look bad. And it got ugly.
Kat Sebastian /
npub16n…k48fw
2023-08-25 17:04:13
in reply to nevent1q…25yy
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2023-08-25 17:04:13Event JSON
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"content": "nostr:npub1hd2rzs04wqq4pqavyr9dnmczg80nzgwg0p73eu3y63ck3gf4ejwsz2zm0u Fair enough.\n\nAFAICT, a common reason people do this is that they're insecure and acting out. They feel that they should be improving themself, know that they could, but don't bother.\n\nThen somebody close to them starts putting in the work, then keeps on putting in the work, and now they feel even worse about themself. \"You're showing me up. Think you're better than me, don't you?\"\n\nRather than use that as a spur to get off their own ass and do what's necessary to get where they want to go, they try to resolve the conflict by making the external source of discomfort go away - by stopping the other person from improving themself.\n\nNow I think about it, when I studied law a very long time ago, we went over a case where this was explicitly the motivation. Short version: old driver retired, new driver consistently outperformed him, and the other drivers tried to bully him into not making their old mate look bad. And it got ugly.",
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