Okay, this is me just talking about some stuff in my life, that's currently stressing me out. None of you know these people so it won't hurt anyone to spill a little tea.
Some friends of mine are divorcing, and I'm friends with both of them. It's a situation where they both carry some blame, and it isn't one of those, This is clear the side you should take, things.
One of the people, James, can be something of a man child sometimes, likes being cared for, and is very resistant to change, but also can't settle either. This has been rough for his spouse Amanda, who is one of those people everyone likes, but has trouble expressing her issues with people often to remain likable. The whole thing festered too long, and Amanda ended up cheating. Yeah, it sucks, but I'm going to say something unpopular here. Some people cheat, because they are cheaters, they intended to cheat, and they always will, but some people cheat, because they are stuck, and something deep in their brain knows they need to change the situation, so they do an "unforgivable" thing, and I think that is the situation. Either way, other than instances of abuse, there are rarely relationships that end, because of just one person, there's a whole lot of gray in between. In these situations, I never want to take sides, I don't want to cast out either one from our circle, and I never know what to do in these situations. I'm still navigating this with my brother and his ex, when they broke up, and I'm still friends with both, and while they aren't full of hate for each other or anything, they still aren't at the point where they can hang out with each other either. I don't know, it just feels heavy, and I don't want to leave anyone out or make anyone feel bad for leaving a relationship they were unhappy in. It's just a part of life and I'm doing my best to figure it out.
Anyway, have you ever been in this situation? How did you handle it?
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