SwBratcher on Nostr: This is real. You nailed it that you’re cashing in the social reward without the ...

This is real. You nailed it that you’re cashing in the social reward without the work. There’s another layer that I’ve felt too. It’s easy to start to add those conversations about what you’re going to do as lenses to your view of the project. This burdens it with expectations, disappointments and externally oriented feelings. This is a burden the project likely cannot yet bear. Also, let’s look at what the failure feels like in both scenarios. We can make excuses for the failure with others and they’ll build us up, and say it’s okay, and accept our reasons why we didn’t follow through. They’ll let us off the hook. But conversely, there is no failure more painful than the quiet one we accept within ourselves. Accepting that we lied to ourselves, cut corners, got lazy, and wasted the oxygen we breathed. If we failed while trying our hardest, we know internally not to beat ourselves up. But if we fail ourselves due to weakness or laziness, there is no reprieve from the scorn with which we reprimand ourselves. So, facing this threat of accurate self judgement internally actually keeps us accountable, because we cannot lie to ourselves and we must succeed at all cost. If we decide against doing this project, we’d better have good reason or it’ll haunt us. If we complete the project we then invite our friends and family to the release. This is where I’ve arrived in how I look at it. I don’t tell others what I’m doing. It sucks away my focal energy and muffles my motivation, and with practice I can feel it actively.