Heres how I place boundaries to protect my energy while still having thriving relationships 🫶🏼
Being raised in an enmeshed family, I was taught that boundaries meant = disconnection & loss of relationships and that was the core issue. Loss of tribe / family is also the most threatening thing to your system when you’re young so you can imagine I had no boundaries.
Having parameters, a container, something to HOLD the relationship- is essential. Not a question. And if it threatens your relationships, then you either need to see it was never healthy in the first place & its time to get clear on your needs and KNOW that they are important.
Some ways I place boundaries :
1. I don’t pickup the phone right away when someone calls / texts me. I check in with myself - am I available for this right now ? (Mentally, emotionally and physically) my energy is mainly for my daughter and partner - anything else is secondary.
2. If something is costing me my peace, then it’s too expensive. I am honest and clear “I dont have bandwidth for this right now - thanks for understanding” it doesn’t leave space for questions or openness. “This is what I need and there’s no debate”
3. I schedule time for calls and catch ups with friends and family instead of just having it on a whim. It sets a framework, a time, intention and more presence for the calls.
Im still learning boundaries with myself for my own life and work flows.
I’ll be sharing more of what I learn so follow & save and tell me what you need support with when it comes to boundaries. Let’s see what we can do 🫶🏼
#boundaries #momlife #newmama #postpartumlife #healthyrelationships #howtosetboundaries
undomesticatedtash / Natasha Kredl
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