jin on Nostr: Any time. I don’t use Primal and lean toward the opinion it’s better to use a ...

Any time. I don’t use Primal and lean toward the opinion it’s better to use a separate app for your lightning wallet and connect it to your Nostr client for security reasons (if your nsec is compromised it keeps your coins safe because they’d also need your wallet data to import into the other app in order to spend), though I hope you can solve your issue with this. Edgewise my personal advice is to swap to Damus (iOS) or Amethyst (Android) and just use a different lightning app. Not super hard to set up and whilst I agree with your point on the friction for new users, we are still quite early in this protocols growth and there will definitely be an easier on-boarding approach in the future. People are building every day!
As for Bisq, I don’t use it as a wallet, but it’s a great P2P trading tool, though does have some caveats like needing some Bitcoin in the wallet first before being able to trade, which can lower your anonymity if you aren’t able to purchase KYC somewhere for this initial load up.