no worries, fren~! i always welcome thoughtful responses. :3
you bring up a really important point about guidance and instructions and the importance of communication. and one i don't necessarily disagree with. a more assertive woman would probably find it easier to communicate those guidelines, however, i doubt that she'd consider a guy who passively awaits instructions as attractive.
i think when i asked this question i was thinking about "Her love language is not having to ask" and how this applies as a submissive man. many times i see taking initiative conflated with leadership, but in this context, at least to me, it's following—i'm following Her cues, i'm learning what She likes and following Her desires, my intent is to please Her by paying attention to the nonverbal communication and the small details in everyday conversation. the initiative is separate from leading.
to me, i think this arrangement is a common form of Feminine leadership—it focuses more on intuition and connection to inspire the masculine partner to act rather than direct commands.
idk, i don't have it all figured out; just something i was thinking about.
thanks again~! ^.^
purrs_for_Her
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