Lena ⏥ on Nostr: — I have a girlfriend, actually. — Oh. So, which one of you is the man in that ...

— I have a girlfriend, actually.
— Oh. So, which one of you is the man in that relationship?
— It's a bit rude of you to ask that. It's a rather personal thing, no? What makes you think I'm comfortable sharing it with you? And even if I was, it still comes with the assumption, that gay people must have the exact same relationship dynamic as is customary with straights. Like we must be just playing a “regular” relationship. And most of the time it also comes with the assumption, that the “dominant masculine with submissive feminine” is the only relationship dynamic that exists. Which is pretty close-minded and can be harmful to relationships of any gender composition. I'm not saying you must think that, but if you do, you're probably missing out. So, in conclusion: It's me. I am the man in that relationship.