Its no secret that i am skeptical of the conventional wisdom that women, cis or trans, are as a group less sexual than men. While libido has a lot to do with how much testosterone you have in your system, that can't be everything. Women's "normal" T levels can range anywhere between a low 20 to a considerably higher 80-with some women having more testosterone than that. These are so-called high-T women. Even in cases where it comes down to hormones, I find it odd to believe that in a population of 4 billion or so that high-T women are such a rare occurence. One rule of statistics: when numbers are large enough, what is statisically rare becomes a common occurence in absolute terms. That's why intersex people are as common as redheads.
But our closest relatives, the chimpanzee and the bonobos, are not so divided when it comes to libido. As a species, both of their males and females are horny in equal amounts. And they have sex, by all acounts, for pleasure and to maintain relationships. We know this because they have sex hundreds of times per birth. So why is it, esp. in European and settler offshoot societies, that there is such a disparity? It cannot be put down to differences in testosterone.
What needs to be confronted is that in the policing of human sexualiry, those designated as women bear the brunt of it. As a result, those designated as women have their sexual development stunted and restricted. They do not have as much leeway to masturbate and fantasize, to experiment casually with multiple partners, to simply lust for and fantasize, to objectify the features they find most appealling, to explore what else beyond sex qua sex arouses them.
Indeed, those women for whom courage or raw hormonal drive leads them to defy one, multiple, or all these restrictions get nothing but calumny and consternation. I need not belabor the awful names they get called, or how the hatred is multiplied when they dare wear those insults with pride.
So, forgive me, but until we have a society free of patriarchy and puritanism I'm going to assume the following: that men exaggerate how sexual they are outside of anonymous survey, and that women downplay their own carnality outside of the same situation. As a species we are shamelessly sexual and capable of being sexually aroused by anything and everything.
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