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I quite liked the book, it's a useful toolkit full of strategies if it seems like your kids aren't listening - they're ideas of what you can say and do, and also how to adjust your own expectations (eg. are they developmentally ready for whatever you're asking, and how are you feeling etc.). And it also has some good nuggets of research, eg. young kids need time to process what you say, so sometimes count to ten after you say something to wait for them to respond. I'd say this book was one of the most recommended among people who practice so-called "gentle parenting", which has a bad rep (because people think it means giving into all your kids' whims), but this book actually shows a lot of ways to hold boundaries and enforce rules, while being respectful and kind to each other, and validating one another's emotions.
I also read "How Children Learn" by John Holt just before this book, and a lot of things resonate, eg. letting children explore widely and not interrupting when they're concentrating etc. that sort of respect is quite different from my own upbringing where fearful discipline ruled and emotions were never said out loud. So I think they're pretty good companion books actually. Would love to know what other education/parenting books you enjoyed! Will look up the ones you mentioned.
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