I'm not aiming this at anyone in particular, but if you want to help someone who's having a bad time, especially who's depressed, try to find another way of helping instead of saying "is there anything I can do to help?"
That offer seems helpful but it means the person who is suffering now has a new task: finding you something to do.
Instead think of a way you can help and offer that.
It takes the burden onto yourself, and crucially it shows what level of help you actually mean.
Loukas (They/Them) 🏳️⚧️ /
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2023-09-28 11:28:37
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