npub1vy8plx448m6ew5shuvtauymmw4eduthuzjnjhta9e6g88uaneqwsk9jfs5 (npub1vy8…jfs5) I have my way, pretty similar to yours i think.
But it's complicated, and thus i cannot say the way we can hardly understand was bad - could be lots of factors that make sense, but we do not know.
Take the "want to tell the world" aspect, well, i can see that some people may have a deficit in being accepted.
Perfect: people are accepted for who they are, changes are accepted too.
Realistic: wildly fluctuating service quality. Some people sure are pushed to be something they are not (possibly in unrelated things). Some people don't get the support needed to develop self efficacy.
So even if someone is pushing for being noticed more than would be good in a perfect world, i would not ascribe this to the person specifically. Can well be the part where someone that was mistreated catches up on how things should be.
Similar: recognition of anything not considered "normal" is lacking, generally. Like you say you don't judge people? Well, i believe you, but there are lots of people that do judge others on irrelevant stuff. Until that is fixed i think it is to be expected to get some flashy stuff about "hey bigots, notice THIS".
From my experience, this last part seems to often get misunderstood. Own experience: women seemed kind of hostile sometimes. Learned more about sexism, esp. how men (=me) often don't notice because sexists often cut the crap when another man is present. Understood: some shit goes down, if "men are shit" is said, it does not mean me.
So in conclusion, i would suggest that stuff that feels like it is pushed onto you might not be meant for you. Because you're not judgy.
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2023-11-22 15:15:43
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