Is your generous heart a strength... or weakness?
For me it is both.
I learned the hard, depleting way that if I am generous in order to GET something I NEED... even good people will take advantage of that.
Why? Because there's a part of the human default operating system that is designed to TAKE, to harvest energy from anywhere we can find it.
If I am willing to give, give, give in order to get appreciation, acceptance, love... it's in other people's short-term interest to deprive me of what I seek! Why? Because they are still getting, and if they give back to me, well, I'll be satisfied and less desperate.
I hated that I was so easily manipulated. It was a weakness of mine... giving too much in order to get what I craved.
Having healthy boundaries is part of it, but not the core.
At the core of making Generosity a strength (and delight!) is getting the benefits personally, deeply, internally.
There IS a pleasure in giving! If I am solid into why giving my heartistry to others matters to me, then in the giving I am experiencing the qualities of living that I enjoy.
In the giving, I am strengthening myself. Expressing myself. Living an aspect of my thriving life of abundance.
Isn't that the same as going for a walk?
When we walk, we explore and enjoy the world. Our muscles pump, our bones undulate, and our mind is focused differently.
Same with generosity. It's good for us... in and of itself... IF we're clear why a particular giving is right for US.
Just like a walk, it can be amazing to walk with a dear friend, too. It's awesome when our generosity is met with energy flowing back to us.
The people in my life who respond to my generosity with appreciation, closeness, and love are precious indeed. That's true in my business also.
Yet, we know we can be generous AND anonymous. Sometimes that's even easier! Why? I believe it is because anonymous generosity decouples us from the expectation we'll get something back beyond the self-respect it gives us.
So... is it complicated to be a generous soul in a world of those who might withhold from us, or take without giving back? Or weaponize our generosity against us?
You bet! Which is why it is a real skill. Which is why we're getting together to explore the Art of Generosity today.
Even if you don't choose to join us, my hope is that if there are things you do "because you're generous" that are not actually a YES to you... Pause. Consider. Get clear. Re-Evaluate. Choose Your Yesses.
If you are choosing to go deeper into this, sign up now for the live session at 830pm or the replay recording. And THANK YOU for YOU!
Register here for The Art of Generosity: Giving Without Giving In
https://www.thrivingnow.center/t/the-art-of-generosity-giving-without-giving-in/1286/5
RickThrivingNow / Rick ~ ThrivingNow
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