to explain the "no unsolicited advice" thing, I see a lot of:
* I ask what people find confusing about THING
* person 1 says they're confused about X (hooray!!)
* person 2 tries to explain / offer advice to person 1 (well intentioned BUT)
* the advice/explanation is not actually useful because they didn't understand person 1's problem
I understand the urge to help but personally I try to avoid giving unsolicited advice when someone mentions a problem because it goes wrong SO often.
(2/2)
Julia Evans /
npub1ym…nlm9y
2023-11-03 14:35:08
in reply to nevent1q…7tch
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