It depends on where you would expect the note to "belong". In most cases, you would encode the nevent with 3-5 of the author's "write" relays, pulled from their NIP 65 10002 event. In some cases, an event might "belong" elsewhere, for example with NIP 29 communities, where a note is posted to a community relay.
For the examples you mentioned, the second example includes a hint for finding the e-tagged event, not the cited event itself. The hint is also not ideal, because it uses the event author's relay, not one of MartyBent (nprofile…gqlc)'s relays (he doesn't have relay.primal.net in his 10002), but it does work because primal happens to have the note in question.
The first example doesn't make any sense, I don't know what `r` tags mean when applied to kind 1. NIP 65 only defines `r` tags applied to kind 10002, not any other event.
hodlbod /
npub1jl…jynqn
2025-05-16 15:16:03
in reply to nevent1q…zwg6
Author Public Key
npub1jlrs53pkdfjnts29kveljul2sm0actt6n8dxrrzqcersttvcuv3qdjynqnPublished at
2025-05-16 15:16:03Event JSON
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"pubkey": "97c70a44366a6535c145b333f973ea86dfdc2d7a99da618c40c64705ad98e322",
"created_at": 1747408563,
"kind": 1,
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"content": "It depends on where you would expect the note to \"belong\". In most cases, you would encode the nevent with 3-5 of the author's \"write\" relays, pulled from their NIP 65 10002 event. In some cases, an event might \"belong\" elsewhere, for example with NIP 29 communities, where a note is posted to a community relay.\n\nFor the examples you mentioned, the second example includes a hint for finding the e-tagged event, not the cited event itself. The hint is also not ideal, because it uses the event author's relay, not one of nostr:nprofile1qy88wumn8ghj7mn0wvhxcmmv9uq3jamnwvaz7tmjv4kxz7fwwdhx7un59eek7cmfv9kz7qguwaehxw309aex2mrp0yhxy6t5vdhkjmnsv9exktnrdakj7qg4waehxw309aex2mrp0yhxgctdw4eju6t09uq3wamnwvaz7tmjv4kxz7fwwd6x7mn9wghxxmmd9uqzq3e0gs8jnmued6f2rp4c6vs07xqvs4vs8zpwt82smcdch4txjvq765gqlc's relays (he doesn't have relay.primal.net in his 10002), but it does work because primal happens to have the note in question.\n\nThe first example doesn't make any sense, I don't know what `r` tags mean when applied to kind 1. NIP 65 only defines `r` tags applied to kind 10002, not any other event.",
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