You’ve got it, actually. As a parent, I agree with you, especially about screens and about being squashed into childcare. It’s even worse if it’s overly crowded, but a really big thing I see is that parents don’t have enough time to create a homelife, and kids don’t get enough time at home. I know families with huge, extremely expensive houses that no one is ever in because both parents are working full time (or more) to pay for the house. Part-time nursery school, if it’s a good one, is fine, but young children should not be away from home from 8:00 to 6:00 every day. They deserve a home life.
I also think you’re right when you say that too much choice is put on the shoulders of children. “Are you a boy, a girl, or neither?” is probably the most outrageous example, but kids are also living all day, every day, being asked to decide things. I’ve stood with my child for ten minutes while another mother talked her tiny son through “deciding” whether, and why, to give a snatched toy back. She clearly wanted him to do it, but it was essential to her childrearing philosophy that it be his choice.
There’s also the whole, “The world is going to shit, with racism and global warming, but you can stop it,” in books for pre-verbal infants on up through grade school.
Whenever I hear that experts of any kind are going to do a new thing to “help” children, I think, “Oh, god, not more. You’ve nearly destroyed them, already.”
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