The most difficult aspect of the dating dance for men, from both my personal experience and talking to other dudes:
Finding the balance between confidently pursuing the girl you're interested in, while not chasing so hard that you convey neediness/scarcity mindset.
It's a catch-22 at its core, and the target is always moving as every woman has a different sweet spot they want a guy to hit before they reach the "ick zone"
The best way for guys to improve their success rate is by simply practicing, and learning how to play that balance/get better at finding that sweet spot quickly & efficiently in the interaction.
When in doubt, always default on "playing it cool". Or if it's easier, just ask yourself: "What would James Bond do?"
#dating #datestr #masculinity #femininity
Ben Wehrman
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2024-09-21 16:49:22
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