I'm so mad right now. I was just telling my Mom about my Dad's injury. They've been divorced for 30 years now, but they've always been friendly with each other. But my mom is very much the kind of person to blame people for certain illnesses, especially on my Dad's side of the family. My maternal grandma had diabetes and died of complications from a heart attack, which was "obviously" her own fault. And she won't hear otherwise.
When I told her they gave my Dad a walker, she wondered if he felt like his grandpa. I reminded her that I also use a mobility device. I would have loved to be spry into my 80s like the rest of the family, but that's not how it worked out. Blaming people for how they age is just cruel and has contributed to so much grief in coming to grips with my health.
I "did everything right". I ate how my doctors recommended, exercised a lot, got regular checkups. But that's not a guarantee of any kind of good health, and it's bullshit that people act as though it is.
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