GET SOBER 03: WHY CAN'T I STAY SOBER?
Addiction is so much more than the act of consuming; most people can will-power themselves sober and stop drinking for a few days or weeks, or until that wedding you've got coming up in the calendar, or whatever the thing is (there's always, always a thing... damn those things!). But staying sober long term is completely different, and the reason it's a different is because long-term behaviour is almost entirely and totally dictated by the subconscious mind. It has a total stranglehold on everything you do, and without convincing your subconscious mind that you are going to quit, it's just not going to happen.
You can consciously think to yourself "right, this is the last time I wake up in a random place. I'm quitting forever and I really mean it..." or "from now on, I'm only going to have one drink in the evenings, honest..." or "I'm only going to drink on weekends..." but the subconscious cares not unless it has been aligned with this behaviour. It eventually takes over and returns you to the misery that it knows and feels safe with, even if it is destroying you in the long term.
What your conscious mind can do though, is decide to, and begin, the process of reprogramming the subconscious. And that essentially is the key to recovery. First stop in the process is to fully understand what exactly is going with the two minds, which we'll begin next time.
But before I go, remember: working on sobriety is an iterative process. We never fail, only learn. Be kind to yourself and never give up.
Marky
#sobriety #sober #getsober #sobercoach #sobercoaching #sobrietycoach #sobrietycoaching #quitbooze #quitdrinking #stopdrinking #alcohol #alcoholfree #getsober03 #subconscious
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