Joel on Nostr: I'm sorry mate. My dad died last year. I won't pretend to know how it's been for you, ...

I'm sorry mate.

My dad died last year.

I won't pretend to know how it's been for you, because losing someone close is different for everyone.

But perhaps I can relate a bit.

A friend wrote these simple words to me at the time: "So sad for everyone as they come to understand just what has happened."

I think about those words often. They efficiently capture something profound about losing my dad —something I didn’t (couldn't?) comprehend until it happened to me.

Losing a parent can be a seismic event. But one which takes time to fully comprehend.

Be gentle on yourself, it takes time.