One of the more challenging experiences for me in #Polyamory is holding space both "new relationship energy" and break-up grief at the same time. There are no scripts, there's few chances to see it modeled in popular culture or even literature, and negotiating the blurry boundaries around this takes a lot of emotional labor.
I was incredibly lucky to get to have a gorgeous, genuinely sweet girl in my life for a year, but she has struggled to get a handle on her substance use disorder and needed to focus on her recovery for a long while. So we broke up and I have cried and cried and cried, grieving the lost dreams we had together.
At the same time, about a month or so ago, I started dating the enchanting and endearingly misanthropic npub16v6gvk03f3u069lanhzd0ckqgjzzc6xl6q0gufmd3xvw622sml3srge48z (npub16v6…e48z) . I have all sorts of excitement and joy at what is emerging and growing between us, and yet it's hard to make sure I don't turn to her to replace what I lost or cross the healthy boundaries a relationship needs.
Joscelyn Transience /
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2023-09-20 19:00:48
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