D00B :verified: :niggy_dab: :mfw_niggers: (npub12ny…jdrp) Parker Banks (npub1g6k…7vjt) [empty] (npub1awg…5lmc)
Some unsolicited advice. Do with it what you will.
Something to consider...
Putting myself in your position, the most important thing for me to know would be why she didnt talk to me about it before she did it.
This would be the key.
If she was scared to talk to me because she thought i would bail, or i would be mad, or something of that nature, what that would mean is that I would have to take responsibility for creating an atmosphere of shitty communication in the relationship, to the point that she could not talk to me about one of the most important choices of her life.
That would make me want to improve.
However...
If she didnt speak to you because she knew how you would feel, and just did it anyway, thinking she could just apologize later, that for me, would be the end. What it reveals is a level of selfishness and manipulative dishonesty that will NOT go away. And the best thing you could do would be to thank God you saw it early on. Cause that one... you dont want to deal with that long term.
You also might consider seeing if she was influenced by a third party.
But any rate, if she hid it, on purpose, until after, i would advise you to high tail it out of there.
atyh /
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2023-07-09 05:28:11
in reply to nevent1q…9t40
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