Hmmm, I see where you are going with this and I agree. I agree that the act of feeling one way and performing another way is bad, but I wouldn't call it nice. I would call it _acting_ nice, which is being false, which is bad.
I think nice people are good. Kind people can be seen as nice. So can false or passive aggressive people. That kind of pretending behavior is weak and corrosive, I think we agree there.
But just because a wolf is in sheep's clothing doesn't mean that we should fear the sheep.
I am probably being nit picky and pedantic here, but I have heard this argument before from someone who was clearly trying to manipulate me out of a solid relationship for their own gain.
It is appealing, no doubt, but I have to go back to first principles here: nice is good, kind is good, manipulative or false is bad.
People are complicated, I try to watch for patterns over time rather than individual traits before judging, and it sounds like you do too. Like I said, I am probably being nit picky about one word, I am sorry and I will shut up now
Brother_Corn / Brother Corn
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