Two chapters of the graysonian ethic deal with failure.
One is titled "failure is an option" and it talks about times I've failed in my life (including completely failing a grade in high school and flunking out of college once) and the lessons that can be taken from those failures. "Failure is an option" refers to the idea that unlike what people say, it's possible to fail, you aren't going to just get pushed along regardless of what you do. Flunking out of college proved that sometimes you have to look at failure and figure out how to change course. I moved on and after dramatically changing strategy I tried again and succeeded.
The other is titled "when you make a mistake" and it starts talking about a stupid mistake I made while writing the book -- I went swimming in a lake with my car keys in my pocket and they fell out never to be found again. It was the only set of car keys we owned so it was a huge problem but I had to follow a process of accepting the mistake, figuring out how to fix it, and figuring out how to make sure the same thing never happens again.
Failure is a really complicated thing. You definitely don't want to fail in your life, but it's going to happen -- I have met a few people who have never ever made a mistake -- they literally don't do anything, so it's easy not to make a mistake. That being said, although you don't want to just accept every failure as a good thing, often it can be beneficial. It's a feedback mechanism that lets you know you aren't necessarily going about things the right way.
Anyone who raises their kid in such a way that failure is not an option is setting them up for failure. Even outrageously successful people don't make every single choice exactly correctly.
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