Oftentimes we are clear what we want, yet we can’t seem to manifest it. In my own experience, we first need to clear space in our life for that thing; I’ll share one example.
In 2009 I was engaged to be married. The wedding was half-way planned and I had purchased a princess dress. As it happened, I never ended up marrying my ex-fiancé and that dress laid in storage for 6 years, largely forgotten. I purchased it with an intention in mind and if you’d ask me about it when the relationship dissolved, I knew I’d never wear it.
In the summer of 2015, I had been sharing with anyone who would listen that I was getting married that year. It didn’t matter that I wasn’t even in a relationship, I just knew. One morning my mom called me and said she was cleaning house and that she had come upon the dress; “what should we do with it?” I had no clue, I told her I’d get back to her.
Later that day while waiting for an appointment, I ran into my friend Nancy and she shared with me that she was planning her wedding in Israel and about to go shopping for a dress. I couldn’t believe the topic of wedding dresses had come up again for the second time that day, especially considering all I had was marriage on my mind! I instantly connected the dots and told Nancy about my mother’s phone call that morning; I had a beautiful designer princess gown that I would be overjoyed to gift her. My friend couldn’t believe I had held on to this dress for so many years. We both realized the significance of me energetically releasing this dress for a new one to come in to my life. At that moment we made a pact that this action, giving this dress to her as a gift, would create an energetic shift in my life so I too could get married. And sure enough, this is exactly what happened. Not only did I get married within several months (with a new dress bought in Paris), but I even got to be at Nancy’s wedding in Israel!
In the months prior, I had been having challenges with my work and as a result with my finances, and thus had no plans to travel. But once Michael and I got together, he invited me to Israel as his guest, and the stars aligned that I was even with Nancy at her wedding in Safed. Imagine her surprise when I showed up at her hotel and helped her zip her dress! She couldn’t believe it.
Nancy met Michael minutes after for the very first time. We danced at her wedding, and soon after, we danced at mine.
Practically ….
Making space can take many forms. But it’s easier to understand if I give examples of taking up space first.
Taking up space can look like:
Wanting to meet and marry your soulmate but sleeping or staying with someone you know you have no future with.
Packing weekends with things to do, being busy all the time with activities and people that don’t light you up, just not to feel the loneliness of not having a partner.
Staying involved with someone who makes you feel strung along; that leaves you guessing, occupying your precious energy, while they park in your brain for free.
Holding on to something sentimental that’s blocking the energetic flow of something much greater from coming into your life. A small job, a small relationship, a little snack, a little sneak, a little nibble.
Why is it that each in our own respective way, we ask the universe for a Ferrari all the while there’s a Volkswagen parked in our driveway? Each day the universe tries to deliver our Ferrari, the order we placed in great detail, and each day the delivery can’t be made because the driveway is occupied by something far inferior, but occupied nonetheless.
What then does making space look like?
Making space looks like…
Ending relationships that have no future, even if they serve a snack of a purpose in the moment. This could mean embracing solitude and spending time alone to reconnect with yourself and gain clarity on what you really want and need.
Making time for self-care and prioritizing your own well-being instead of constantly putting others' needs first.
Acting “as if,” i.e., asking yourself would this person be in my life if I was married to my soulmate? As if, would I spend my weekend with these people, doing these things?
Acting “as if” can also look like deciding not to tolerate flakiness, or people who make you feel unsure or insecure, as if you don’t know where you stand. Or it could look like setting boundaries with toxic or draining people in your life and creating space for healthier relationships.
Releasing limiting beliefs or negative self-talk and replacing them with positive affirmations.
Making space can look like letting go. Even if you are left with emptiness in its place. Knowing that this void is the space needed for something much greater to come into your life.
The universe has taken our Ferrari order to the finest detail; if it hasn’t appeared yet, it’s simply waiting for us to take the necessary action to create the space for the delivery.
In what areas can you make space?
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