:bible_wh::confederate_flag: 巫女波 RMIV:sonnenrad::miyanoYay: on Nostr: fine. dating apps came after Grindr, which is a gay hookup app. ergo hookup culture, ...

fine.

dating apps came after Grindr, which is a gay hookup app. ergo hookup culture, gay culture, was exported to heteros. dating apps are literally gay and most women are not on them. look for yourself as far as user totals divided by male/female and then extrapolate that female total against the dateable/marriageable age range for women in the nation.

most women are not and have never been on dating apps despite our terminally online apprehensions, and these apps therefore select for particular kinds of women. the kind we here often profess not to want and should otherwise be avoided anyhow.

further, i don't like apps because they allow men to shirk overcoming the anxiety of just walking up to a girl they like and seeing what happens. and i don't like it when men show fear or are controlled by their fears.

so there that's why not both.