Don't get married just so you can live together. Don't live together unless youre married.
The longer you can resist getting married and living together, the stronger the marriage will be.
I've been married only 14 years and we literally moved in together after the wedding.
Having religious or stated ethical reasons for not moving in together makes it easier and won't be treated as rejection or a sneaky way to cheat.
My rule of thumb is to not get married in the first year. I've heard as much as 7 years, but I think that's if you're starting out young.
I have other rules of thumb, but I'm sure you won't like most of them.
Brunswick
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