Sysiphuscript on Nostr: Another banger from Signull on X: "i have noticed that when people want something too ...

Another banger from Signull on X: "i have noticed that when people want something too badly, when they chase, when they try too hard—it almost always slips away. it’s not just some dumb universe thing.. it’s just human nature. people can smell desperation, & it repels. not because they consciously think “oh, this person is desperate,” but because desperation warps behavior—it makes you less attractive, less confident, more erratic, less enjoyable to interact with.

i remember a time when i desperately wanted a job. i chased it relentlessly, i was the most qualified candidate. but i didn’t even get an interview. the more i pushed, the less it worked. contrast that with moments where i let things come to me, it was effortless. doors opened, people gravitated toward me, opportunities just happened.

the paradox is that the best way to get what you want is to not need it. not pretend not to need it (people pick up on that too), but actually rewire yourself to not be attached to outcomes. desire without attachment is the sweet spot, pursue, but don’t chase."

I noticed this with women in general. Don't be thirsty. They won't come, and even when they finally do, your thirst was not justified.