when it comes to *being* defederated, it isn't the end of the world.
some people have a different style toward how they want to run their space. although they may see their defederation of *you* as a value judgement, it probably isn't in reality: they probably just find the friction annoying.
what we've learned is when staff are seen as brooding about being defederated from an instance, it results in further defederations.
learning to not feed into this is essential. you must, as an instance admin, maintain command of a situation, and that involves checking your own shit.
there are a number of instances that have defederated treehouse. it doesn't matter.
focus on *your* community. users sign up for *your* community because they want to be part of *your* community.
if they wanted to be part of the *other* side of the netsplit, they can sign up for an account on that side of the netsplit.
yes, this doesn't feel good, but ultimately not feeding negativity is key to avoiding getting burned out over "fediverse politics."
Ariadne Conill 🐰:therian: /
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