During challenging times for relationships of all kind, stopping & reflecting brings a new perspective and help us to observe our contribution to it.
We spend a lot of time at work, our relationships there are important 👥
When we hit a wall with a colleague it takes a lot of energy, stress and inefficiencies in our daily tasks.
Have you ever gotten stressed about sending an email to a colleague? 😅
By listening to myself (to my inner voice, to my body) have helped me to start observing it. 👂
Then, observing it 👀 like an outsider has helped me to put myself on the other’s shoes. Empathy does its thing at this stage.
People are stories, wounds not healed, as we all have. 💕
Finally, I proactive open an space to talk. I like to listen first, all that is being said, not just words. Then I use my voice. Or vice versa as needed.
Not all relationship’s challenges can be solved (I have learned to accepted that), but I honor them, by opening the space anyways.
From my research 🤓 …
Observing 👀
Reflecting 🤔
Opening an space to talk 👥
Listening 👂 ⚖ Speaking 🗣
👂What is being said, but the most important…
👂💛 What is not being said.
And when we start listening deeply, we can listen to fears, our own and others.
I wonder why we don’t talk about dragons 🐉 at work. 🤭
I wonder why we don’t talk about fears.
As an individual who explored them a lot in therapy, and I have experienced the benefit of it, I wonder, why no-one talks about them at workplaces.
Have you ever asked your team…What is their biggest fear? 🤔
Talking about fears at work could feel uncomfortable at the very beginning, but exploring them is a way to connect with others while realizing we share a lot of them.
Overcoming them with others could bring a lot of relief too.
Fears limit our actions, decisions and our ideas to blow.
Using tools like LEGOs helps us to explore the unconscious mind 🖤 🧠, where most of the fears have their residence. From where most of the decisions are made 😅
🌱 With Mini figures and blocks we can project a situation that you or your team is going through.
🌱 As we project it, you can detach emotionally from it and you become an observer of it.
🌱 You can only change, what you can observe with full presence.
🌱 Playing does exactly that, brings us to the present moment.
By using LEGOs we can bring perspective and spark more creative solutions.
Ignoring fears at work means ignoring we are… just humans.
So step by step, we made our workplaces more human.
Deep listening breaks down walls.
And that is what The World 🌎 strongly needs these days.
In the end, what is really behind any wall, it is a wound not healed.
Stay colorful!
Laus